Is my partner being selfish as F?!

[jacksmamx]

36 weeks pregnant and shitting myself about catching covid. I'm not vaccinated yet (it's booked) my midwife has only just advised me to get it done.

My partner is fully vaccinated and has stopped wearing his mask today cos of the restrictions lifting. If he brings covid home, he won't get that poorly cos he's double jabbed whereas I will probably get very poorly as I'm heavily pregnant and not vaccinated.

When I told him to keep wearing his fucking mask he said "why do you have to make everything about you?"

Honestly, I'm on the verge of leaving him. Is this disgusting to anyone else or AIBU?

Yeah I definitely think you should leave your husband over this. Honestly, let's just split up all families where's there's a minor difference of opinion or approach. Let's allow this fearmongering bollocks to destroy your unborn child's relationship with their dad, too, while we're at it. Maybe everyone should just live alone and only connect through social media to people who are guaranteed to agree with them about everything and also who won't be breathing in the same room as them.

I'm surprised the midwife is recommending vaccination though as the immune system is suppressed in pregnancy, what is known about the vaccination reactions of pregnant ladies? I thought the vaccination was offered after baby is born?

I think people are naive in thinking that a mask reduces risk. Most particles are tiny enough to get through cloth (source Brunel Prof this morning on Talk Radio and my own views anyway).

You're not unreasonable in being concerned or wanting someone to take extra precautions but I think you're letting fear rule you it's clouding your judgement. It's a bit OTT.

He should be more understanding and be doing everything he can to look after you and baby.

There are loads of drop in vaccine sites,I.would go.to.one asap.

@jacksmamx

Anyway... mask pedantics aside. It is not unreasonable for me to be scared about catching covid in this stage of my pregnancy and feel like he should just respect my wishes. Maybe I'm being stupid and selfish myself.

I agree with you. Your partner should have your back, and be thinking about your health and the health of your baby

@jacksmamx

Anyway... mask pedantics aside. It is not unreasonable for me to be scared about catching covid in this stage of my pregnancy and feel like he should just respect my wishes. Maybe I'm being stupid and selfish myself.

It is not unreasonable for me to be scared about catching covid in this stage of my pregnancy and feel like he should just respect my wishes.

It's a tad unreasonable when your wishes will do nothing to stop him getting Covid and passing it to you, yes

I totally get why you're worried though.

Yanbu but is he like this in other areas of your relationship? Does he takes on board your concerns or just rubbish them? Is he normally kind, caring, thoughtful? If not then yabu by expecting him to change habits of a lifetime. If he is then I'd be finding out exactly what his problem is as he is being an arse.

I am 33 weeks pregnant and have 1 jab, dh is being extremely cautious as he had read up on the risks to pregnant women in the last trimester and is being mindful for his wife and child but he is a thoughtful person anyway.

But you are missing the point. Unless everyone around him (at the shops/pub/work) is also masked up then his mask offers no protection.
Masks protect others not the wearer. So it's not unreasonable for him to say no.
It's perfectly natural to be scared and worried and YANBU in that respect but the mask won't help..
Is there a backstory to this?

@Ponoka7

Actually masks do make a bit of a difference byes to protect others against you, but they do also help to perotect you from others

Google the evidence