Samaritans didn’t answer

[Sylvan92]

I’ve been feeling low for a while. I had a massive fight with dh where some bad things were said. I called the Samaritans but no one answered after several minutes. Please hold my hand.

Hey, I’m up. I’m sorry you had a fight.

Did you try the Samaritans again? They have a web chat thing now too, did you know?

I’ve never reached out for help before .

Got to take a first step sometimes.
Are you OK - not a fight that means you’re in danger? Are you OK in yourself?

No I’m quite distressed

Hi OP, keep trying. Talk here if it helps.
Are you somewhere safe?

So, you can write down what you’re experiencing - either here or via Samaritans. Or give them a call back -they will answer and help you, I promise.

Anyone you can call who doesn't live too far away where you could crash for the night. My daughter rang me at 3am one night - so glad I answered the phone - she was just upset - problems with her bowels, workload, wind blowing the bins round outside,was too tired through anxiety to sleep and had to be up early, etc - honestly - I was so glad she rang me - it felt good to be the one she turned to - a good friend will not mind a call in the middle of the night. Worth thinking about?

Some harsh things get said in an argument and not everything is meant - even if there might be a grain of truth at the root of it - have things been brewing for a while?

I’m safe and I tried to call a couple of times. My feelings have been dismissed a lot in real life so it’s hard when I try to speak to strangers with no joy.

Ok, well no one will dismiss you here. The Samaritans email service is good - you get your feelings down at your pace.

I’ll just have to deal with it myself

@Sylvan92

I’ll just have to deal with it myself

You have given any indication of what you might want help with…

It is hard to speak to people who don't understand and if it's complicated then all the more difficult.
This is anonymous, you're free to vent. You've made the right steps seeking help

I sometimes think that bottling things up and not talking to anyone about them is all part of not really wanting to admit there is a problem - it's like if you say it out loud then the problem suddenly becomes real and it's not what you want to know or accept.

Talking does help.

What are you feeling low about - about not having your feelings dismissed - what feelings? About what?

I don’t want to be obnoxious but it would be much easier to speak to a real person than write it down.

@Thack

It is hard to speak to people who don't understand and if it's complicated then all the more difficult. This is anonymous, you're free to vent. You've made the right steps seeking help

Thanks

@Sylvan92

I don’t want to be obnoxious but it would be much easier to speak to a real person than write it down.

True. Understood. Sounds like you really do need someone you can trust to confide in. Sun will come up in a few hours - get some sleep. There are some good people on here. Take care.

Try again to get through . I know you would prefer to talk to someone in person but if you can’t get through I’m on night shift and here all night if you want to post on here.

You’ve taken a massive first step in reaching out for help. Keep trying the number

Not sure if these numbers might help…

Services such as Breathing Space (0800 83 85 87) and NHS24 (08454 242424) offer a listening service and signposting.

Hope you are ok OP and managed to get through take care