To sleep downstairs on the sofa

[annoyeedd]

Me and bf have been together about 3 years also just moved in so honeymoon period (of moving in anyway)

Lately when it comes to sex he doesn't touch me at all. Honestly the last probably 10 times its been the same routine me initiating, foreplay is for his benefit then it ends in sex which lasts 2/3 mins. I feel like one of those blow up sex dolls you just use to get you off.

Wheres my pleasure... it makes me feel so unimportant and like he doesnt care about how i feel.

He always gets embarrassed afterwards and makes a joke about how quick it is, honestly i wouldnt care about that of he just made some effort to make me feel good.

Im just lying here raging, hes asleep. I want to go downstairs and sleep there tonight so he knows.

Im the type of person that will rather just forget come morning and avoid the uncomfortable chat but i really dont want to do that, i feel like crap and its not ok.

AIBU?

Don’t play silly games. Tell him if he doesn’t buck his ideas up you’re over. Tbh I’d end it anyway as he obviously doesn’t care about your feelings.

Nah, fuck that. He’s a selfish tosser. Have you discussed it together?

He probably wouldn't realise why you've gone to sleep on the sofa. Would you then tell him the reason when he asked?

Sleep downstairs if you want, but don't be foolish enough to keep dismissing this problem. You need to have a big conversation, probably several, because his ignoring your needs is never, ever going to work. The resentment is going to build to the point where there's no coming back if you can't resolve this now.

We've discussed it in the past, he sort of said that as i'm unable to "finish" he finds that demotivating.
But i mean how will i ever get near to the finish line if he doesn't even start the race!

He’s selfish.

Selfish. Stop having sex until he gets the message: you both get off or no one gets off. No point continuing to give him what he wants when you don't get what you want.

Tell him it's ladies first for a while? If you don't get any effort from him first, he gets nothing from you.

I spent too many years in a marriage with similar sex as given by your partner.
Run!!

Ladies first. Show him what you want.
This problem will not solve itself.

Cutting off sex isnt going to help since he apparently isnt interested anyway.
Neither is telling him what you want. He already made his excuses about that.
Just end it. It won't get better

Has he always been this selfish in bed? You need to be able to talk about this. Definitely stop having sex with him until this is discussed.

It's easy. Your turn first but you may have to come to terms this thes selfish in bed and unlikely to change.