So I have this friend who I’ve known about 3 years. She and I have been through some difficult times and last year both of our marriages ended, we became closer as a result, we confided in each other and helped each other through.
However, I’m finding the friendship really tiring because I feel like she only gets in touch now when she wants to rant, and she’s not interested in hearing about my life anymore. But the worst thing is that she is really sensitive - I mean, I am too, but she is much worse than I am. She overreacts to a lot of situations and has lost a lot of friends this way. If she disagrees with something she’s like a dog with a bone, she won’t let it go - again, she is like this with everyone. She will never agree to disagree, she always has to have the last word etc etc. I feel like I’m walking on eggshells around her and that I can’t just confide in her anymore because she’ll take offence at something I say. She doesn’t hold back when disagreeing either and can get quite personal.
I have often supported her in awkward situations because I used to value her so much and the friendship was worth it but I’m not sure it is anymore. She will always want someone to back her up.
The problem is - I still really care about her and I feel like maybe she’ll change 😩
Help me out MN. Am I just overthinking this?