Do I tell him or not

[Notsurewhattodo1988]

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I'm finally getting around to planning my LOs christening which I'm so excited about, already got my god parents sorted and asked and they have all said yes,

Now my older brother and his family are not currently talking to my mum and step dad, now this has been going on for a long time and there is a lot of back story which I don't want to go into it really.

The thing is if my older brother and his family are invited and come then I know my step dad, who is being called grandad by my LO, and my younger brother, who is going to be a god father, wont come because of everything in the past so this would probably mean my mum might not come either.

The christening is going to be planned not far from them and other family will be invited such as great grandparents, aunties, uncles, cousins and friends.

My mum, step dad and younger brother are involved in my LOs day to day life and see us most days of the week, I'm a single mum, love the support and the bond she already has with them.

Now my question is, do I tell my older brother about the christening and explain that I'm sorry but I'm not going to include them because of everything and give my reasons or do I not tell him and deal with it when I can guarantee someone will probably mention it to him.

YABU - tell him
YANBU - don't tell him and deal with it later

I'm Christian and both our children were baptised as adults. Neither my parents or my siblings are Christian. It's not a genetic thing.

I know that you're just trying to put the boot into the op, but it's not a good look.

Amen to that.

Tell both of them to start acting like bloody adults, if they can't hold it together for 1 bloody day for your child who is completely innocent in all of it, then neither of them are to come.

Your not asking them to become best mates, just hold it together for 1 single solitary day.

Unless the backstory is about abuse....

I would invite everyone, lest you be accused of taking sides. And tell everyone that this is your childs day and you expect wveryobe to act like adults and if anyone steps out of line they will be out the door.

I would personally go fucking apeshit if my mother refused to come because of family politics.

And not inviting your brother is clearly choosing sides so if you dont invite him you might as well cut him off. But watch out, jist because ypu are geographically closer to one side of the family doesnt mean they are giving the full truth and your brother should be included as part of the family, unless you dont want a relationship with him anymore. You cant not invite him and still play nice to his face. You need to step up and decide if you are going to treat him as family or not, on your own terms. Not do what you think will make your current chums happy.

People are so hateful towards Christians, it's so sad. I'm a Christian but my parents arent, and we also have an awkwsrd family dynamic (parents divorced hate each other). So sad to see such ignorant and aggressive comments on here towards Christians, as usual, and totally unprovoked as always.