Family group chat - etiquette

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Just trying to get sense of perspective and AIBU about content of our family chat.

Parents, 2 siblings + partners and myself + partner are part of family group chat. It was mainly used to organise group events (birthday meals) or for odd pictures of things whole family maybe interested in (new house, kids passing tests etc).

Recently, 1 sibling is using this to check childcare with parents is still ok. This was bit odd and really showed how much they use my parents for childcare( 3 times a week).
Then when they went on holiday we also had 30+ photos a day of what they did (including 3 of them posing same way in a pub).
I ended up muting conversation for a week as 1 holiday park is same as next and happy to see key photos when we meet up.
Yesterday we then had 8 photos of last day of term by photographer. 5 near the same (slightly different smile) and other 3 the same but in different school top. Again, I didn’t reply straight away but wondered why not send just the best one?

But question really is AIBU to think a group chat is there for things you know group will be interested in or need to respond to? Not for documenting your daily life for all to have to read.

No it drives me bananas, we have one group chat with about 30 people including cousins and aunts and uncles and sometimes one of the cousins and one of the uncles will have a conversation about something really boring like the best brakes for a bike

TAKE IT OFF THE GROUP CHAT YOU BOZOS

I would agree; I’ll put a photo on of a day out we do or maybe a couple but not loads as I doubt it’s interesting to see several similar photos . Our group chat was set up to share pictures of our DC with my mum and sister so perhaps a different dynamic though

Just leave the chat. Let oh deal with this crap

My family chat is like this. I've muted and just check in every few days and skim the messages.

My family put key holiday photos on the group chat (so e.g. we were away over half term and put a photo a day) but that's very much what it's for, along with jokey threads. We live all over the country so meet ups are arranged on other chats. We have about 5 different permutations of the group chat that I'm aware of (there's probably more that I'm not in).

@JaninaDuszejko one a day I can cope with as no doubt it’s best if the day. But this is like every picture you take of the day.

Equally maybe my parents like it but that’s what sub groups are for, right?

I love all this stuff on the family chat… all the photos, and awards that the kids have got, general news etc - my husband, not so much, he has the chat on mute !

I can't stand these group chats. My family doesn't have one, but my husband's does. My solution was to switch from WhatsApp to Signal. None of them have followed suit, and it's very peaceful on my phone now.

Just mute and check in every 2/3/whatever days and comment positively on one photo.

I’m in a group with DH, BIL, SIL, DH’s parents and DH’s 14yo nephew. It’s a bit painful at times - I’m the only one who doesn’t really speak their language beyond gcse level so I’m forever just saying “Lovely!” to things but there’s also a huge wealth divide so I feel obliged to tone down what we share and respond in an over the top way to anything SIL shares. And then you have my MIL who genuinely remembers the name of every child my DD has ever been in a photo with and wants all the info.

Basically I do one photo occasionally to the group of something innocuous like DD picking berries, and everything else goes directly to MIL only.

I muted my family one and eventually just archived it. Can't remember the last time I bothered to look at it. Dh let's me know anything juicy (never).

Ours is like this and I've had to mute it too. Some people are crashing bores.