To not let DF take DS out with them?

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Sanity check before I release these thoughts into words please.

DF has been with his partner 12 years, all in all his partners side is a nightmare family. Not one of her children works, she has 3 who all have at least 2 each now all living with partners themselves. All grown up same age as me (ish).

Getting into all sort of trouble; drugs, fraud, murder and arson you name it they’ve either been exposed to it in their circle or caused it.

DF wants to take our DS(1) his biological grandchild out with one of his partners grandchildren from this absolutely bonkers family for the day this is the first time it’s come up but undoubtedly will in the future too. This kid is much older and has already been in lots of trouble and does weird stuff like gouges eyes when he’s on shoulders and that. I don’t know the true extent because I do a good job of staying as far away as possible.

I want to say no but have a feeling it’ll start ww3. Am I being precious?

Nope. Fuck that

@DartmoorDoughnut

Nope. Fuck that

This is my opinion too

Trust your gut and say no.

No fucking way would I allow my child to interact with people like that. It'd be like adding them to the cast of Shameless

Of course not.

A world of no.

Just say you’re busy. No need to WW3 and to be honest if that happened you aren't any worse off.

Smile and ignore.

I wouldn’t; if you’re worried about the issues it could cause can you agree in theory then make up excuses as to why it won’t work?

@DartmoorDoughnut

Nope. Fuck that

Couldn't have phrased it better!!

Just say he's too young to go anywhere without you, what with being fussy about food and drinking (whether or not he is!), nappy changing etc. Why not offer to go too?

Not a chance would I want my kids exposed to this behaviour so just say no.

Just says he's sick on the day to avoid conflict.

Depends on how old ds1 is. Under about 12 - no chance.

Unanimous phew! Ok thanks.

@Dillydollydingdong DS is one so still pretty tiny but toddling about copying everything everyone does.

If your instincts are No, stick with it. I would not want my child exposed to that batshit behaviour. Protect your child, that the only thing you need to worry about.

Would be a hard no from me. If it starts ww3 so be it. You aren’t comfortable with it so that’s the end of it.

When it comes to the safety and well being of your child you need to practice saying no. It's a hell no from me.

To be honest I wouldn't make a "one off" excuse, as you say you'll be doing this again when they next ask.

I think your going to have to say no, we have decided this is not going to happen. Ever.

That’s true @Sadiecow I had a moment of panic when they offered, turned out they didn’t all go together today but I definitely need to raise it so that it doesn’t happen in the future