How many times is too many

[Imascarecrow]

To be called a C u next Tuesday. All because I wanted dp to hold our 6 week old who was moaning wanting to be held as he hadn't touched her all day. But nope.. 'im too hot'.

He’s be an ex the first time he said it!

So he saw you give birth just 6 weeks ago and all that entails and still had no respect for you ? when I saw my wife give birth I was full of awe for her for a good 6 months. If it was a throwaway comment at 2 am after 10 nights of no sleep and he apologised right away and it's totally out of character then it's still not ok but perhaps explainable - but if this is his usual personality he is a soulless heartless piece of shit with no understanding of how to live a good life - and it'll only get worse. Hope you are ok op

Leave. Things won’t get better. Any man that calls their partner that for asking them to hold their own baby really is a cunt.

I really would leave. That would be crossing a red line for me. If you stay you will eventually be teaching your daughter that it is normal for men to call their partners a c*nt and that the woman should just accept it. That is only going to lead her into great unhappiness. Leave now and give her a chance at a peaceful, untroubled home life.

Do you have options @Imascarecrow? If you can't kick him out now, please start making plans. Its one thing arguing in the heat of the moment when everyone is hot, tired and stressed, but verbal abuse is another.

There's wider context than just the word imo.

Never a nice insult to throw bit hypothetically, knowing my dh isn't usually an arsehole - if we were in the middle of a screaming argument (which has only happened twice in 16 years), no dc around, he shouted it...then it wouldn't be a LTB situation.

Him saying that to me whilst holding our newborn and asking for help...i can't even imagine it but thats a LTB situation.

He's not a good man and you deserve more.