To insist on paying him?

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There's a boy that lives near my mum, he's 15/16. He mows her lawn and he seems like a really nice lad as he's always helping other neighbours by mowing their lawns and he did some shopping for a mum with a newborn.

He also asks my mum if she wants him to go to the shops for her (she's got problems with her mobility so is in a wheelchair). He asked her recently and I was self isolating so she said yes, he also knew I was isolating so he had a cuppa with her.

I do offer to pay him but he always says it's fine etc.

Next time wibu to insist on paying him?

He might have said 'man here' as the helpful teen is male and therefore he could show the though process from a male perspective. Fuck me some people love to get their knickers in a twist because someone with a penis dared to weigh in . A one off gift sounds like a great idea for what it's worth op. Maybe find out if he has a steam account or something so he could buy a game?

I would give him a £30/£40 and tell him you appreciate how helpful he has been and tell him to put it towards something nice over the summer holidays and to enjoy himself

I'm not sure it needed a male specifically to point out the thought process. Male or female might have felt that accepting payment might create a sense of obligation.

Goodness me everyone, has the heat got to you? Some very nasty replies on here towards other posters.

I agree.
Some posters seem to come on MN just to try and start an argument. I’ve been seeing it more and more recently.

If the op was asking about her husband's Viagra, a male perspective may well be useful. But not to pay a teenager, or to not pay a teenager.

Sure as fuck not all men think exactly the same so a wide range of diverse opinions from people of both sexes is what you want.

I'm well aware that this is a predominantly female site. I have no wish to intrude or mansplain, so sometimes I say something like 'bloke here' as a kind of content warning. A while ago I asked for advice from people about my daughter's partner who was showing some red flags in his behaviour, and I felt it was important that anyone reading or responding knew that I was male. Probably in this thread it was unnecessary. No offence taken at any comments, and I'm glad for the feedback. Lesson learned.

@Maybeone

Hi 'Man There'

Pretty sure someone already suggested this upthread

Yes, and I acknowledged that in my post. I felt I could add something to it, though, so it wasn't just a 'me too'.

Man here

Women, please behave yourselves as we are in the presence of a penis. Don’t upset him or he’ll tell the Church Elders that we can shapeshift.

I'm well aware that this is a predominantly female site. I have no wish to intrude or mansplain, so sometimes I say something like 'bloke here' as a kind of content warning.

Ignore them they are keyboard warriors who obviously have nothing better to do! There are also some posters who have obvious issues with men so anything you say you’d be shot down for.

If I went onto a predominantly male forum and wanted to give my POV from a female perspective then I’d state I was female too.

Males and females do often think differently which is why as a teacher I am taught skills on how to deal with each sex. Of course not all males think exactly alike but they think more similar to a male than a female.
I’m not sure why people are getting so offended than a male has dared to give his POV from a male perspective.

I can see how announcing you are a man might be relevant on some threads, not this one though.

Please don't contact the school, you will just end up embarrassing him and for teenage boys there is little worse. I agree with a pp , some money in a card and just say it comes with no conditions you are just doing something nice in return.