Was I stupid to have done this?

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I’ve worked in my current sector for 16 years- mid/senior management role

I’m 40 - not sure if it’s relevant but who knows

I’ve worked in my current organisation for 5 years- I’ve always been conscious, team player, went over and above my role. I’m contracted 4 days but have often worked 7 days due to piling work, raised it multiple times but it’s always ‘ it’ll get better’

Over the pandemic it’s been horrendous- more and more piled on to certain staff but not all. The willing ones are exploited- I understand this will be the case in many organisations but there is zero prospects for progression and no acknowledgement what so ever

We went through a change management in the middle of the pandemic and the number of roles in my grade was reduced - had to reapply and go through the interview process and I was successful in securing my role

The work load was increased and the support not sufficient- I ended up being signed off for two weeks due to stress- never happened before

I went back after this and nothing changed- everything was as it was before

The work was repetitive with no respite- it’s not a profit based organisation so finance management is not seen as crucial- mangers can shout loud and get what the day want. It’s very depressing working like this..

So after much thought I decided to hand in my notice, currently serving my notice. I’ve been successful in getting 3 interviews but not been successful- I’m trying to move away from the current sector into the commercial sector- 1st interview feedback was that really good interview but the sector changing is causing a few concerns to them as to if I can hit the ground running-

The other two no feedback yet- I’ve woke up yesterday and had this knot in my stomach‘what if I made a mistake?’ My mental well-being and job satisfaction is not going to pay bills- maybe I should have stuck with it until I had a job…

I’m financially secure but obviously don’t want to dwindle my savings - I’m 40 so not exactly have the time to leisurely figure out my next steps…

Was I really stupid in doing what I did?

@BritWifeInUSA yes I’m open to this - I’m happy to work to probe my worth - but just need an organisation that values the dedication

A few things:

• You definitely did the right thing. The way they treat people at your old company is appaling and I am not surprised you ended up burned out. I am glad you chose you own well being over them.

• Secondly, I think you feel too much loyalty toward companies. 90% of them will replace you in a heartbeat if they can find someone who'll do the work for less than you do now and they won't even care if it's "honest" or not. In the end a job is a means to an end. We live in a neo-liberalist society and if you don't look after your own needs first then no one will. That does not mean you have to exploit people, but take care to protect yourself

• Finally, when it comes to job interviews, the most successfull ones I've had is where I conduct the interview to see if the job is a good fit for me. I ask more questions than I answer. I find that most employers appreciate this approach. I frequently get told that is shows candor and a genuine interest in the job.

40 is not that old. Don't let a condescending remark like that prevent you from heading in the direction you want. There is not a single company out there right now that will get a candidate that "hits the ground running". It's an unrealistic expectation.

@markmichelle thank you - you are right. I should be careful in my choice of words…

When I gave my notice my manager was irritated as I’ve given her a problem - she tried to tell me that I was leaving as I cannot do my job, which we both now is not true- even she didn’t sound convinced saying it but almost wanted to say something to get back at me…I think I momentarily let that clots my judgement

I have seen at least 3 friends have serious mental health issues, 1 women, 2 men (I'm male) over increasing workloads and stress.
Before people assume they might be easily stressed types - far from it.

There comes a point when your health matters far more than money, or work status.

Ideally, it's better to have another job lined up, but when enough is enough - you've still done the right thing. I feel for you.

Not every company operates like this (but sadly, far many too - including plenty of blue chip companies that like to pretend they care for their workforce). Thankfully, some companies have a really healthy attitude. You'll get a feel for that very quickly even at interview!

Well done OP.

I do think you have done the right thing. Don't forget that poor line managers try to convince employees that they are all but unemployable and that the line manager is doing them a favour keeping them on .

People forget that employment is a two way deal.
You are offering your services for a price that suits you. The moment it doesn't suit you, you can terminate that contract (within the constraints of agreed notice period etc).

A lot employers like to think it's a one day deal , of them offering you work, and you should be grateful. They forget that they also need to persuade you they are a decent client.

I say 'client' because ultimately that is what your employer is. You are offering your services and they are your client, buying those services if they like them. It's a much more positive way for employees to view themselves. You can sell your services to another client!

I did have to giggle at your typo saying you've always been conscious at work

Best of luck OP

@PercyPigandMe yes I’m definitely conscious at work!! helps to get the job done

Also conscientious!

Whilst you're working your notice get your LinkedIn profile into shape. Link with everyone you know, everyone you've ever worked with, and everyone you've come into contact with in your role. You may be surprised how much of a network you really have.

@DogInATent yes I’ve polished my linked and and working on it daily as well if I see a way to improve

I need to improve on building a network

Not remotely stupid. Have you thought about contracting for a bit? That way you could get experience of different industries and prove that you have transferable skills. Better money too.

@Blossomtoes yes I have contracted before and quite liked it- it’s varied and good challenge

Spoke to a few agencies but they want someone to start now- I’m on my notice until Sep but have in my todo to ring around early September

I’m on Indeed, LinkedIn, CharityJobs and do check various companies own websites as well- have created an excel database!

If there are other avenues which I can explore please let me jnow

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