AIBU to state that there are no realistic sex education resources suitable for teenagers to be found.

[SleepOhHowIMissYou]

Please tell me I am because I've drawn a blank. Everything in bookshops is aimed at school age and covers puberty (long past) and then sex in no great detail. Videos online are either nasty teen porn or too evasive (pictures of blooming roses and aubergines).

Even on the TV. There's never any foreplay shown in sex scenes. Never ever a realistic portrayal of the prep that's needed for sex to be firstly possible and then pleasurable for the young woman.

I'm so depressed that porn has skewed how our teenagers see sex. Please, please tell me there's something instructional, detailed and realistic I can share with my teens.

Ted talk (there is also a website):

www.ted.com/talks/cindy_gallop_make_love_not_porn

Thanks @Carboholic will take a look.

The Sex Wise website is very good.

Slightly off-piste suggestion, but Hollie McNish’s poetry is much more clear and honest about sex than any educational resource I’ve seen.

I got my teen a book I saw recommended: "This is not a sex book" by Chusitsa Fashion Fever. It covers all the things you mentioned plus feelings, orientation, kissing, consent etc. He was a bit embarrassed but later said he had read it and it was really good and answered a lot of questions. I don't go in his room much but it's frequently off the shelf so I think he refers back to it regularly!

Have a look.