To not get DD teacher an end of term present

[SchoolsOutForGood]

End of year we usually always get the teacher a present as a thank you.

This school year dd teacher has been awful, he has been unable to control the class, doesn't know how to communicate with the pupils. The class does have a couple of challenging pupils but he has always been unable to discipline them and tended to punish the whole class because of a couple if naughty children.
I've never had any issues with dd but this year I have noticed a decline academically and behaviourally. I've met with teacher and head teacher, and things changed for a week or so.

WIBU to not get a present at the end of term next week. Dd doesn't want to and to be honest neither do I.

I don't know why you need to post this. There's no obligation to get a present. Don't overthink it.

@seven201

Usually, if dc didn't, they would be the only one in the class to not buy teacher a present, might be different this year with this teacher

@seven201

I don't know why you need to post this. There's no obligation to get a present. Don't overthink it.

This. You don't need to get a present if you don't want to. The teacher is unlikely to be checking names against a list.

Of course you don’t have to

@seven201

I don't know why you need to post this. There's no obligation to get a present. Don't overthink it.

This.

[quote SchoolsOutForGood]@seven201

Usually, if dc didn't, they would be the only one in the class to not buy teacher a present, might be different this year with this teacher [/quote]
But it's not like everyone turns up on the last day of term and they line up and hand them over. It's usually staggered over the last few days so I'm sure no one will notice. Just don't mention it.

Of course you don't need to buy a present, it's ridiculous the number of times I've seen this thread posted in the last couple of weeks

I'm sure it's the same every year but why does anyone feel obliged to buy a gift? I don't think I've ever seen a reply to any of the threads that tell a poster they should. Where is this feeling coming from?

I don't ever buy end of term gifts for individual teachers. It's totally unnecessary and teachers do not expect (or want) parents to do this. If they have had a good connection with my child then my child will make a thank you card or I will speak to or email the teacher to thank them.

Don't bother, why would you want to get a gift for this man? Seriously just don't. Maybe other parents feel the same way and will also not get a gift or card. There is no obligation.

YANBU. Dh and I are teachers. We never buy our dcs' teachers presents except in a couple of special cases of wonderful long-term class teachers they'd had for multiple years. Teachers no not expect or need presents for doing their job, even when they are great at it.

You don't ever have to buy anyone a gift. That's part of the point really. So what if your child is the only one who doesn't.

No one has to get a teacher, or anyone, a gift. Just don't if you don't want to.

We have never ever bought a teacher a gift, I know very few people that have tbh.

Oh FFS.

If you don't want to buy a present then don't. This nasty teacher bashing thread is completely unnecessary.

You don’t need to provide long winded excuses. Nobody is obliged to get the teacher a gift.

So what if she is the only one ? One year I hated my teacher so much I refused to sign the class card 🤣🤣 she was a horrible woman and she bullied me constantly.

Nobody cares whether you buy a present for the teacher
Certainly not the teacher concerned
I’m sure he didn’t train to be a teacher for the end of term gift
He’s not going to notice the lack of gift

@PyjamaFan

Oh FFS.

If you don't want to buy a present then don't. This nasty teacher bashing thread is completely unnecessary.

Have you posted on the wrong thread? Where's the teacher bashing? You know that not all teachers are good at their jobs and it's perfectly OK to say that if that's your experience.

How does your child feel? Will she feel awkward not having a gift to give?

Also worth remembering that this last year has been awful for teachers and pupils and behaviours of children are very different to normal. Not every teacher will cope with that.

Maybe cut a bit of Covid slack?

No one will notice if you don't. Teachers don't keep a class list of who has and hasn't given presents. YANBU

YANBU but it feels odd if you've always contributed to collection/bought a gift.

DD1s only male primary school teacher was a horrible bully and shit teacher. We didn't buy him anything. One of the parents bought him a small cactus passive aggressive visual gift showing he was a little prick

Fortunately DD2 has had a much better experience with male teachers in primary school!

@PyjamaFan

Oh FFS.

If you don't want to buy a present then don't. This nasty teacher bashing thread is completely unnecessary.

Eh! Teacher bashing.
No-one has been teacher bashing on this thread!

Of course you don't have to, don't think twice about it .
We had same experience one year so no gift / card .
I have never bought expensive or teacher themed gifts anyway , just a token ,but have always written a heartfelt thank you .
Thankfully only happened once .

It's not compulsory to buy a gift. I am always amazed when parents haven't been happy with the teacher all year and then still buy them a gift. I usually contribute to the class collection but if it hadn't been a great year, I don't. Please don't feel guilty.

However, I would say if you are/ were unhappy I hope that this has been communicated with the teacher/year head/ head teacher. Things won't improve if they don't know about the issues.