To have told DS off whilst he was on face time?

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I always tell DS(15) when me and DH are going to bed and tell him to keep the noise down etc. Today, he was on face time to a girl (not sure if she's his girlfriend or a friend although I did hear her say that it's their first face time and he's already hyper and that he's quiet at school so I assume girlfriend).

Anyway, me and DH then heard him talking downstairs very loudly and DH went down to tell him to be quiet. He then said whatever and carried on making a drink. DH then said To me that he probably shouldn't have told him off whilst on facetime. But I can still hear him now so it obviously hasn't worked

But were we BU?

If you were being u, a 15yo won't hesitate to tell you.

No, not U, he should keep the noise down.

I’d be marching back down and telling him to shut up again. 😂
Doesn’t matter if he’s on face time he should still have manners towards you

Nah, a minuscule dose of humiliation is part and parcel of being a teenager. And it might actually make him STFU next time

I caught my 13 year old swearing the other day whilst on the Xbox...he didn't realise I was in earshot and let out a string of swear words I've never heard (from him) before...i was genuinely shocked!

Apart from not being keen on Ds1 swearing there are wider implications as dc3 is 4 and I definitely don't want him in earshot of that kind of language.

I made it through his bedroom door in 0.5 seconds flat and said loudly that if I heard that kind of language off him again he'd be losing his Xbox for a month.

Cue him shushing me and a semi-panicked hiss of 'Mum, I'm on the mic with the boys!'

And my roared response of WELL I KNOW EVERY ONE OF THEIR MOTHERS SO UNLESS THEY ALSO WANT A MONTHS BAN I SUGGEST YOU TELL THEM TO MIND THEIR LANGUAGE TOO! 😂

I don't even care if I was bu, the little shit tried to shush me!

A certain amount of humiliation is a good thing in a teenager. In future, I can pull out the card that says “remember when I did x? Well, I can do it again if you like?” This then gives the teenager a choice in behaving, knowing what consequences are involved.

He's normally respectful and quiet whilst on face time but last night, me and DH had had enough