Mildly irritating situation- other women fawning over partner

[Kitten189]

Been together about a year and a half. He’s great and very respectful, I trust him.
Sometimes situations like this just make me roll my eyes, does it ever happen to anyone else? I know it’s best to just laugh it off.

We went to a bar he used to work at yesterday. A female colleague was there who he had worked with for a little while. I don’t think she acknowledged me or even looked at me at any point, she offered him a free drink too but I was totally blanked. Then I could just see her gazing at him.

A week or so ago I went for a meal with 3 old school friends. One of them kept asking about my partner, but never asked anything about me for some reason. Then when I left she said “Ooh make sure you bring him next time! Teehee”
The other 2 friends said it too.
Just found it a bit desperate and weird how she kept asking me things about him but nothing at all about me, even though I asked her about herself.

Anyway I probably sound like a miserable cow, just couldn’t imagine fawning over someone’s partner like that especially in front of them. I’m maybe over reacting though.

It's weird but why let it bother you if it's not him doing the fawning? People have always done it to my DH too...I've never let it worry me at all.

Once he was giving a presentation thing and I went along with a female friend of his...this was before we were married. As we went in, she giggled "Ooh we're like his groupies!" and I thought no...I'm not but YOU obviously are if you're saying that!

He's very good looking and gathers fans wherever we go but why let it bother me? I don't. He doesn't react or flirt or anything.

Yeah you’re right. He’s done nothing to encourage it, I just find it disrespectful from the women, especially my friend.

Many years ago my family doctor was the subject of adoration from lots of women in our town. He was good looking with a sporty physique. I liked him very much as he was good at his job and always friendly and polite, but I never fancied him like that.
He was my doctor for over twenty years and he saved my life. We had a history but only as doctor and patient. However I regarded him as a friend since we knew each other very well.
He was very good with children and babies in particular so he by the nature of his job saw lots of women.
I felt sorry for his wife, who must have known and heard things but she was a very private and quiet person.
I started swimming with some other mums at the local pool in the evenings. We were being coached by a couple who taught our children and organised lots of competitions etc.
We were practising for badges and learning new strokes.

Also at the pool was a swimming club of which my doctor was a member and the other mums noticed him and got giddy, talking about his thighs for God's sake,,
He saw me and came over to say hello and well done for joining. The other mums were a bit jealous, but I had known this man for a long time, so why shouldn't he speak to me.

Then years later, I found out he had an affair with one of the nurses from the surgery, and I was disgusted with him. I was shocked when I found out and thought he was better than this. I wondered if this was the only affair given the way women fawned over him.
He is still with his wife. I don't know how she put up with it. I know I wouldn't.

It would be annoying OP.

Is your husband unusually handsome or lovely?

This sounds braggy but lots of women fawn over my DH
I find him handsome of course but I really think the fawning is more because he is a mature, loyal and really decent man.

Reading 90% of the descriptions of DH/DPs on here makes me feel like I'm living in a twilight zone sometimes. Helpa me nktnto be jealous when women blatantly come on to Mr Natty. Like no wonder if your husband doesn't cook or clean unless asked, feigns "helplessness" and doesn't parent his own children you'd see mine and want to jump him, regardless of what he looks like

As long as he adores you and doesn't take the piss I wouldn't pay it any notice.

This has happened to me with a few of dh colleagues. I had a go at one, and said how dare she ignore me and my dd. My dd was a toddler and trying to talk to her. But the woman just ignored us both and spoke to dh. She went oh oh and walked off made me wonder what she was like alone with him....

I 'get' you, OP. DP is very good looking (not a stealth boast at all, just a fact). He's 65 - doesn't look it at all tho, I'm late 50s so we're not a young couple.

But the annoyance about other women fawning, coming over to speak isn't due to jealousy.

It's because we are out together socialising, or working, and it's fucking tedious when other people just insert themselves into your night beyond a hi how are you couple of minutes, and don't know when to go away.

Nothing you can do about it. I tend to think some men like a bit of flattery tbh (as do some women) and that's cool, but key thing is for it not to go too far.

If a woman aims to yap away too long DP will just stop engaging and in the awkward silence that ensues, the other person slinks away.

DP is a decent man, has a good aura too but still, it's sad that a man being good looking is enough for women to fawn over him. That's a shallow low bar. Got to be much more to a man than looks.