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You know that feeling ...

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exhaustedallthetime · 16/07/2021 21:30

...When you're just so exhausted 24/7 and feel like you're on a hamster wheel and can't get off it? And there's no one to talk to and the nights are just so lonely.

Anyone else? No point to this really! Just needed to get that out somewhere.

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ZoinksRun · 16/07/2021 21:31

What's going on? Too much work? Taking too much on? Life admin? Kids? Caring responsibilities?

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exhaustedallthetime · 16/07/2021 21:33

Kids and poor mental health. And feeling isolated from family and friends. Just feel very alone this evening.

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AttaGirrrrl · 16/07/2021 21:36

It’s a horrible feeling. Want to talk?

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exhaustedallthetime · 16/07/2021 21:37

I honestly don't know where to start, the tears just won't stop

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IHateCoronavirus · 16/07/2021 21:38

Ah we’re listening op. Life can be tough at times. You aren’t alone Brew

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exhaustedallthetime · 16/07/2021 21:39

@IHateCoronavirus

Ah we’re listening op. Life can be tough at times. You aren’t alone Brew
Thank you
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Adm1010 · 16/07/2021 21:41

I understand . Maybe try to type some of it out? Just try to let it out

floppybit · 16/07/2021 21:41

Fire away, we're listening. Having a bit of a mope this evening myself

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exhaustedallthetime · 16/07/2021 21:43

I feel like I've failed as a mum. I feel really alone. I feel like when I need my family and friends they aren't there. I'm just in desperate need of a hug and someone to care. Sad

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exhaustedallthetime · 16/07/2021 21:43

@floppybit

Fire away, we're listening. Having a bit of a mope this evening myself

Sorry to hear that, I hope you're ok x

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AttaGirrrrl · 16/07/2021 21:44

If you can’t write it, maybe call Samaritans. You don’t have to talk if you can’t form words, or you can just say random thoughts without worrying about structure?

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IHateCoronavirus · 16/07/2021 21:45

Are the kids in bed?
Can you do a bit of self care? Watch a film you want to see? Have a long soak in the bath, etc?

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exhaustedallthetime · 16/07/2021 21:46

@IHateCoronavirus

Are the kids in bed? Can you do a bit of self care? Watch a film you want to see? Have a long soak in the bath, etc?

One is at her dads and the other is here next to me sleeping soundly. She is my world right now.

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exhaustedallthetime · 16/07/2021 21:49

It sounds silly but I'm too exhausted to even watch a film or read or anything. All I seem to have energy for is to lie on the bed and cry. Sounds pathetic.

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LostArcher · 16/07/2021 21:54

Perhaps that's what you need to do. I had a pupil say to me once 'I cry but it's not proper tears, it's my emotions leaking out of my eyes - better that they come out in water form than some other way'. Perhaps your body is so, so exhausted, it is just expressing that in the only way left. The utter exhaustion I totally get, with knobs on. Focus on breathing - in for five, hold for three, out for five. Many hugs.

ssd · 16/07/2021 21:57

Im sorry youre feeling heart sore @exhaustedallthetime

Life can be difficult. Can you curl up beside your little one and sleep?
Sometimes things feel better with a sleep.

AttaGirrrrl · 16/07/2021 21:59

If all you can manage is to curl up and cry then do that. Sometimes we all just need a cry.

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exhaustedallthetime · 16/07/2021 22:05

Yes I am about to try and get some sleep now. My little one is only a toddler so she will be awake soon as she doesn't sleep through the night. I should get some sleep before she wakes. Thank you all for listening to me.

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ssd · 16/07/2021 22:05

Absolutely. Sometimes we all just need a cry.

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exhaustedallthetime · 16/07/2021 22:07

I try not to cry in front of my little ones. They are looking to mummy to be strong and I do try. Especially the youngest I don't want her to see me upset as she doesn't understand in the way the older one does. Hard to be strong all the time though isn't it

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Ravenspeckingontheroof · 16/07/2021 22:11

OP it’s ok to cry in front of your kids. Obviously not all the time, but don’t let them grow up thinking adults don’t cry. I hope you feel better after some sleep. You are doing just fine x

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exhaustedallthetime · 16/07/2021 22:15

@Ravenspeckingontheroof

OP it’s ok to cry in front of your kids. Obviously not all the time, but don’t let them grow up thinking adults don’t cry. I hope you feel better after some sleep. You are doing just fine x

The littlest one just looks at me with a sad confused face when I cry, it makes me feel so guilty as she's just a baby really so I try to explain it's ok mummy is just a little sad and then i try to smile and do something nice with her. The eldest understands that adults cry sometimes and she hugs me and talks to me etc. I don't cry all the time. I try to brave it an awful lot. But today it has all built up. I love my girls so much. I'm so proud of them both

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EarringsandLipstick · 16/07/2021 22:39

OP, I'm sorry.

I absolutely get this feeling. You aren't alone.

Let yourself cry tonight but also try to rest.

Tomorrow, take each little step throughout the day & remind yourself of how much you are achieving. I feel very lonely most of the time, despite kids and a busy job. I have to keep a lot to myself & it is lonely.

There will be better days 💐

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exhaustedallthetime · 17/07/2021 02:25

Urgh I've woken with awful anxiety 😥

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exhaustedallthetime · 17/07/2021 02:34

I just want to run away from it all.

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