DS always seems to have a new girlfriend!

[striae]

My son is 15. He brings girls here and they go to his room (he always has his door open, but I allow girls in his room) or they go outside. Whenever they're outside I see them kissing and holding hands etc. But I've seen him do this with about 3 different girls in a short space of time! I then see the first girl with him and they kiss and hug etc is I don't think they've broken up.

Would you get involved or stay out of it and hope he isn't upsetting all of the girls?

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I would ask who the second girl is and see what he says, and tell him it’s likely to blow up in his face if he’s seeing multiple girls.
After that I’d not get involved, and I say this as a mum of 2 older teen boys.

I really don't know about the different girls. It's hard to know about that one.

Based on my own history I'd be very careful about 15 year olds and bedroom. Everything I did willingly and usually took the lead, but I was too young.

Yeah, you do need to tackle that for his sake too.

I've a teen DD, at this age her, & her girlfriends were well aware of the boys that behaved like this & they are known as F* boys & to be avoided & warned about. DD had one lad who has been keen on her for years now (she's now nearly 19). They are good friends, she admits he's very good looking etc, but says she still wouldn't touch him with a big stick due to his reputation from school. Even years later the lads who were like this at school just aren't taken seriously by their peers. Even a lot of the lads take the pee too. As mum to a teen DD, I'm glad to say, that sort of behaviour is largely not cool anymore

He is definitely taking the pee too & you need to put some rules in place. If he's bringing people into your home, he needs to be telling you exactly who they are. DD wouldn't dream of doing that, even at 18

@striae

Yes, I have spoken to him about safe sex etc. He has been with the first girl for a few months and has introduced her as his girlfriend.

That's good, but I'd also speak to him about the importance of honesty and respect, and how much it can hurt someone to lead them to think they mean more to you than they really do. And that it is OK to end a relationship if it's run its course.

You can't interfere in his relationships but you can explain to him how they should work in general. And make it clear you won't tell any lies for him.

I think you do need to speak to him about respect and behaviour towards women. He may not have too many good male role models outside the home.

I had a phase in my teenage years of having a new boy every few weeks, never more than kissing etc. My parents didn't get involved, let me figure it out for myself. I settled down and got married at 24 and still very happily married. Sometimes we go through these phases but very often that's all they are.

I don’t see it as a problem, as long as his safe and the girls too then let him flitter, before his settled down at 24, married at 26 and spending the next 30 years worth with just one person.

Can you tell I wish I enjoyed my youth more! 😂

Id talk to him. What is he telling all these girls? Is he able to chat with them after he's moved on to the next? Does he ice them when he's moved on?

It all seems very immature. He is not looking at any bigger pictures. If my daughter crossed paths with him, id be worried for her and if my son who is also 15 behaved like this, id be worried he'd get some underage girl pregnant.

It's not something id ignore. And i KNOW how hard it is to talk to a 15 year old boy

I'm really surprised at these responses. He's 15 and treating girls disrespectfully (from what you've described) under your roof.

As a feminist and as a mum of a male child I would absolutely bollock him and not allow this to go on.

I've spoken to DS and he told me that he fancies the other girls but he loves his girlfriend so he doesn't want to break up with her and he's asked me not to tell her.

@IdblowJonSnow

I'm really surprised at these responses. He's 15 and treating girls disrespectfully (from what you've described) under your roof.

As a feminist and as a mum of a male child I would absolutely bollock him and not allow this to go on.

My boyfriend cheated on me when I was 22. His mother knew. He was studying abroad and met someone and kept me on the back burner.

He actually came back with her without telling me and I wondered why I wasn't welcome in the family home.

I ran into his mum and she hugged me and apologised on her sons behalf and said she did not raise him to treat women like this and she was very disappointed.

15?! The advice is to leave him to it...unbelievable

I’d have a word with him about it, make sure he’s treating them all with respect… My Mum’s friend’s 31 year old stepson is still at home and he still has a different girlfriend every few months. Some guys never grow out of the philandering phase unfortunately.

I’m also shocked at some of the responses on here. Surely it’s our job as parents to teach boys not to disrespect girls and lie to people.

I also feel sad for the girlfriend, she’s been round for tea a few times, imagine if she then finds out that other girls have been round snogging her boyfriend and his mum was absolutely fine with it. The poor thing won’t be able to trust anyone!

If the girlfriend thinks it's an exclusive relationship that's not ok.

Really not on.