Immature 9year

[Meme2019]

Ladies please help me.

My son is July born, just turned 9. Not sure if immature is the right word. He has a little sister aged 5, he has no problem running around playing with children younger than him. At this age I thought he would be showing about more maturity, but he plays with reception kids, my daughters friends. He is not special needs. This morning I had to tell him calm down, I could see his class mates calmly standing around and he was running around playing with younger kids. Is this normal?

I would say it's normal for 9 year olds to run around and play!

It is for some kids yes. To be honest, many kids mature far too quickly these days. Partly due to internet access and watching or playing inappropriate computer games.

Has his teacher shown any concerns? Has he got friends in his class? Get invited to playdates/parties?

9 is little. He does not need to be 'mature' at nine and it's lovely he is still playful.

“Is not special needs”
No one is special needs. They might have some needs which are additional or special.

I think it's really bloody sad that a little boy playing with some younger children needs to be described as "not special needs" while his mother wonders if he's normal?

What would she prefer? Swearing and demanding 18+ rated games? Earning a wage?

It's so sad boys are discouraged from being children so soon.

He's nine. He's still really little.

He should be able to follow instructions etc but of course he should be running around playing.

I wish my 9 year old DD was like this. She thinks she’s really cool, too cool to sit and play anymore. She’s matured far too quickly for my liking, peer pressure from friends I think.

Let him play. He sounds happy and clearly doesn't mind not being around people his own age.

My DS does have SEN but at his Cubs they all run around madly and play. From the 8 year olds to the really tall 10 year olds.

Perfectly fine my 10 yr old is similar, it's how kids should be, my older ds was too grown up by this age rejected all toys and childish things except X box games and sport.

I'm kind of glad my youngest will still play with toys. Unfortunately some people thin they should grow up to quick. I asked last year in lockdown on where I could buy some octonauts toys as ds was really missing his we'd given away and amongst the lovely responses had some very rude and scathing ones about why would a 9 year old want them! well he does still watch the show even now, so there pokes out tongue

Perfectly normal , DD was like that at 7 and 8 yrs, I think they like to be the oldest and younger ones looking up to them.