To be living in regret constantly?

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It’s like grieving, the feeling that I’ve completely ruined my life.
All because I thought that the grass was greener…

Ah op. I'm sorry you feel like this. Talking about it might help..here, or with a professional?

Whatever the cause,its not right or healthy to walk around every day feeling as you do

I don't know how old you are OP (40s? 50s?), but the chances are that you have a good 30 years ahead of you. However you're feeling right now does NOT mean you have ruined your life. Can you make a 5 year plan of things you would like to achieve and start planning how?

This used to be me. If you think about it, the past has been and gone and is somewhat irrelevant. All you have is this present moment. Focus on this very moment and what you want to be doing right this second and keep living life that way. Don't give the past a second thought (easier said than done I know)

Never look back and regret what has happened. You did this for a reason, probably because you were not happy. Talk to us on here, or talk to your friends. Having been in a similar situation, things will get easier, I promise. Sending Love ❤️

No one ever completely ruins their life, there's always a period of recovery and with acceptance and making the best of things, you can start to do away with negative thoughts. It does take a lot of work, though in some cases.

I do have my big, big regrets that hit me out of nowhere once in a while..... I try to focus on other things, I'm generally busy enough

Has something recently happened for you to feel like this? As sometimes it can be a temporary emotion when something has gone wrong. You may not feel like this once its passed x

More context would be helpful.

Have you actually ruined your whole life? Or ruined the life you had.

You can always move to create a new good life for yourself.

No one ruins their life.
Everything is recoverable
If you keep ruining it that’s different and I would seek help for self sabotage

Difficult to comment without knowing more detail

I'm guessing you left one relationship for another and now realise your previous relationship wasn't so bad after all? If that's the case, I guess you have 3 choices (1) stick with new partner, (2) see if previous partner will take you back, (3) go it alone

Is this about infidelity?

'Grass in greener' sounds like a relationship change? If so thats the good thing about rekationships, yiu can change/end them if they don't work for you. Screw saving face/proving people wrong.

It’s easy to look back and say i should have done this and that but in reality even if you had done this and that you don’t know what the outcome would be.
You made a decision because you believed it was the best decision for you which it probably was so try not to regret it and just think what things you can do to improve it.

People often think that so you’re not alone but elaborate if you’d like to and people might help.

If you thought the grass was greener on the other side then there must have been something unsatisfactory about the grass on the side you were on else you'd not have given it a second thought.

Do you feel able to tell us any more about your situation? We might be able to help you.

'Grass is greener on the side you water it'

What happened op, it's hard to advise with no info.

I remember reading this once..' don't look back, you/re not going that way'. Wise words I think.

"If you never try , you never know'.
Your being too hard on yourself, so this venture didn't work out, you learn from it and move on.

Hugs OP.

I know what this is like, I've been there too.

It cuts like a knife.

It took me a long time, but I got there in the end. Didn't think I would at times.