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Would you let an 11yr old go into town with friends?

10 replies

CaffeineAndNicotine · 15/07/2021 20:37

30k people, so a medium town size. 15 to 20 minute walk from school on the last day of year 6. About 6 of them. Dh would be on call as I would be over an hour away. Group of boys and girls. Its dd first time without an adult, although she knows town well and how to get home. (30 minute walk but will probably phone dh Grin)
Yabu let them go
Yanbu they need an adult

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Youarenothere · 15/07/2021 20:40

She’s got to learn sometime. But guess it depends how responsible she is, my friends 9 year old daughter would be fine, another friends 11 year old would struggle.

PrincessNutella · 15/07/2021 20:43

I live in a smallish town in the US, but where I live it is very walkable and 11 year olds are definitely walking and biking around on their own.

Valhalla17 · 15/07/2021 20:44

Difficult. I would say adult needed, even if they just sit in a cafe in town while the kids roam for a bit...it would be good to have an adult near?

ThePlantsitter · 15/07/2021 20:45

It would sort of depend what they were going to do once there. But yes, I probably would.

Maggiesfarm · 15/07/2021 20:46

I'm sure they'll be fine, it isn't very far away.

SE13Mummy · 15/07/2021 20:48

Presumably they'll be getting themselves to school independently in September? Make sure they know they must stay together and how to get help in a genuine emergency but let them go.

HelloDulling · 15/07/2021 20:51

I wouldn’t. In Year 7, I started taking DD into town with friends and sitting in a cafe while they went off for a couple of hours. In Year 8 dropping her in and picking up later. Year 9 was Covid and few trips anywhere and now she’s Year 10 and walks everywhere by herself.

DamsonJammyBastard · 15/07/2021 20:52

If she's going to be getting herself to and from school as of September I think letting her go into town unsupervised with friends is the sensible thing to do in order to build up her confidence and street smarts.

fairynick · 15/07/2021 20:55

YABU. Let her go, she will feel so grown up and like a real coming of age moment especially with leaving year 6.
Come September, most 11 year olds manage to get busses/trains/trams/walk fair distances to school alone and/or in groups. This is a good first stepping stone.
Even if you aren’t that nearby, I’m sure out of the six children someone’s parent will be in or near town. :)

MrsFin · 15/07/2021 21:02

Yes I did and yes I would.
What are your concerns?

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