‘Sharing is caring’ is a load of bollocks

[Eveningtwilight]

My BIL is a CF. Examples would include buying a nest of tables off us and then taking nine months to make the token payment we had asked for, avoiding repaying us after we shopped for his family when they needed to isolate during the first lockdown, never entertaining us but expecting to be entertained and then eating us out of house and home, getting huffy that the help we have for our young kids is for us and not available for his family to use as free childcare and saying to our DC that we (as in DH and I) should pay for school fees for their kids ‘ as we can’ when our DC merely to BIL that it would be nice if his DC came to their school as opposed to a different one.

So anyway, now it seems he is drilling into his young kids that ‘sharing is caring’. We, and especially our oldest DC, have been told this a few times by his brood if for example, oldest DC has been given chocolate or a new toy or something that it should be ‘shared’ Or the same message is at the end of the cute videos they send us.

Of course, we will ignore it but AIBU to think that our DC are potentially going to be endlessly told this by their cousins and obviously as they get older the stakes get bigger. Sharing use of a car, or a property, or a piece of jewellery that we have given to our DC.

As I say, it’s not a big problem but AIBU to think that it is mildly annoying…

This is a huge problem in school. So many children seem to be under the impression that 'sharing' no longer means waiting patiently and taking turns, but "I want that and if you don't give it to me now then you're not shaaaaaring".

@LadyMonicaBaddingham

This is a huge problem in school. So many children seem to be under the impression that 'sharing' no longer means waiting patiently and taking turns, but "I want that and if you don't give it to me now then you're not shaaaaaring".

Exactly this. So many people don't fully grasp what sharing means, or understand that no, not everything needs to be shared, just because some grabby bastard decides they want it.

i can't believe you're actually worrying about your future adult children getting manipulated by their cousins into giving up inherited jewellery or property because as young children someone had told them "sharing is caring".

It's hardly cult-level brainwashing.

@suspiria777

i can't believe you're actually worrying about your future adult children getting manipulated by their cousins into giving up inherited jewellery or property because as young children someone had told them "sharing is caring".

It's hardly cult-level brainwashing.

She's not, she's just annoyed at his grabbiness.

YANBU

Sharing a load of bollocks. How many adults are willing to share their phone, their car, their garden tools etc. I can understand teaching children to take turns with something neither of them owns, but since adults don’t share, I don’t see why we expect children to.

@suspiria777

i can't believe you're actually worrying about your future adult children getting manipulated by their cousins into giving up inherited jewellery or property because as young children someone had told them "sharing is caring".

It's hardly cult-level brainwashing.

Found your BIL 🤣😂

@LadyMonicaBaddingham

This is a huge problem in school. So many children seem to be under the impression that 'sharing' no longer means waiting patiently and taking turns, but "I want that and if you don't give it to me now then you're not shaaaaaring".

I agree. If my dcs have friends over I get them to decide if there are any very special toys they don't want to share and put them away. Of course I then encourage them to share their other toys but I don't want to give them the idea they have to let other people play with all their stuff. After all, I wouldn't lend someone my engagement ring or something!

Glad I am not being totally unreasonable.

I am also mildly amused that it’s usually those who recite such nonsense are those that are happy for others to share with them, but rarely willing to do the honours themselves…

I hate the sharing bollocks. I wouldn't dream of sharing my stuff so as pps have said why do we make a bug fuss of children doing so?

Perhaps next time they give you the "sharing is caring" speech, tell them that not everything is for sharing, and that it's very bad indeed to share some things. Like nits. Or STDs. Or needles for that matter. Yes - some sharing can result in DEATH.

And remember, Joey Tribbiani NEVER shares food.

Sharing is for LOSERS.

as DS2 once eloquently put it after I asked why they were squabbling: "but mummy, I want to share! I want to share his ice-cream!"

yeah, right

Your BIL can fuck right off. what a self-indulgent, self-centered cockwomble

I think it already is a problem. Not sure why you say it isn’t. He’s a grade A piss taking user.

I’d see a lot less of them and make sure your DC have a range of prepared answers so they don’t fall foul of the using behaviour as you have.

Sharing is bollocks. I choose who to share my belongings with, carefully, and it’s not with many people. I’m teaching DD the same.

@LadyMonicaBaddingham

This is a huge problem in school. So many children seem to be under the impression that 'sharing' no longer means waiting patiently and taking turns, but "I want that and if you don't give it to me now then you're not shaaaaaring".

This attitude comes from entitled parents. Those of put forward these dopey ideas are the opnes who try to con everything out of life, nature's takers rather than givers. Sharing is fine if it's a two way transaction.

@suspiria777

i can't believe you're actually worrying about your future adult children getting manipulated by their cousins into giving up inherited jewellery or property because as young children someone had told them "sharing is caring".

It's hardly cult-level brainwashing.

If they are brought up in such a selfish, grasping environment they are unlikely to become decent adults.

The whole phrase is annoying. DS has been taught it at nursery, and while he uses it properly, to get a pat on the back when he does actually share, and not when he is grabby, it still grinds my teeth.

@Changechangychange

The whole phrase is annoying. DS has been taught it at nursery, and while he uses it properly, to get a pat on the back when he does actually share, and not when he is grabby, it still grinds my teeth.

That's is annoying. Teaching them to take turns is fantastic. Teaching them that everything around them is up for grabs because we all have to share is not.

Sharing is caring-my arse.

Phrase trotted out by the tight duck arses when it comes to other people stuff. Not that they are willing to share theirs.

Been there,got the t-shirt

BIL sounds like a grabby freeloader.

Are you more financially well off than them? It sounds like he's trying to guilt you into "sharing" with him, but he doesn't feel the need to reciprocate.

Sharing is caring goes 2 ways, you might share something material to show gratitude they give you some time and do a job you needed done.
Obviously that's adults.

But it can be altered for children.

Absolutely no way do I share my Maccys cheese dippers share box. Those little beauties are all mine.

Yes we are better off. As I say we pay for our kids to go to school privately and his comment when our oldest asked if his DC were going to the same school was that we could pay for them to do so because we can.

The last time I was sent a video with the ‘sharing is caring’ message, I responded with the Michael McIntyre video on playgroups and the difference between sharing and theft

of in doubt be Joey🤣