To be really angry at DM..?

[Ginpancakes]

Last week I was rather horrified to discover my DS (8) had threadworm and had kindly passed it onto me! 😱 I’d never heard of such a thing and was pretty mortified by the whole experience. Ewwwwww.

Anyway, I confessed this to my mother in the hope of some advice and swore her to secrecy - bit embarrassing TBH!! It turns out she’s told the whole family and thinks it’s no big deal that she did because its a common ailment (who knew?!! Although she herself said she had never heard of it before). I’m so angry with her about it! I’ve passive aggressively not been answering her calls today but thinking I should confront her on it - AIBU?

YABU - get over it, no big deal
YANBU - she’s out of line!

Considering you explicitly expressed the fact you wanted it kept quiet YANBU at all.

Is she normally like this?

I don’t think it’s a big deal. But I guess I see why you wouldn’t want it spread around.’
but surely you know your mum has form?

I'd be annoyed too. However, it is very common in young children.

Out of three children ive only ever had it once its really not that common

I’d be upset that she’s told everyone, I think you need to have a conversation about this , when you’re less angry.
Thread worms aren’t uncommon, my son got them years ago. People just don’t talk about it.

I've lost count of the number of times we've had to treat for threadworms 🙄

Common ailment along the same lines as headlice. It's just one of those things with young dc...silly to be embarrassed over it.

My children had them loads at primary school, nits too, and the grandchildren have had them recently. There's nothing to be embarrassed about. It's not a sign of dirtiness. My children sucked their thumbs so fingers were always in their mouths.

In the 80s, children were sent home from school to be treated. When I first got the call, the school receptionist said I was in good company as the doctor's kids were going home too. I laughed, so much for confidentiality! Those were the days when most parents weren't snowflakes though.

It's common (I was a dispenser/pharmacy assistant), used to feel really sorry for the parents that had to by Headrin and Ovex in the same visit!

If that was my DM there would be nothing passive about my aggression when she next called me.

Yeah she was out of order but it is incredibly common and nothing to be embarrassed about.

About 40% of kids have them at some time. Chill.

Threadworms are like nits they pop up. My dc managed to infect both sets of grandparents - fun convo. Much less gruesome that nits though

Spread an embarassing rumour about her andcteach her a lesson

She shouldn't have broken your confidence, no.

However, the more threadworms are a dirty secret the less people talk about it and it remains 'dirty" when it's anything but. All my 3 have had them at some point - 2 nailbiters- and passed them to me. It's the bloody boil washing that rips my knitting.

Shocked your mother hadn't heard of them. I guarantee one of her children would have had them at some point and were blindly infecting others!

I hate people oversharing. Why would your wider family need this info? She's just a gossip.

I agree I'd be annoyed if I'd asked her to keep quiet but threadworms are quite common and easy to get rid off with OCT. I do think we should be more open about these minor medical issues.

I would still be cross she had betrayed my confidence, though. How angry would depend and who she told. The whole family. Is that just siblings? Or like 50 people you don't really know.

You clearly can't trust your mum, but I have a feeling you knew this about her already. A big mouth who loves to gossip. I wouldn't be telling her anything.

in the hope of some advice and swore her to secrecy

For this (and because you aren’t anyway) you’re so not being unreasonable. She’s just a gossip. She’ll regret it when you stop telling her anything ever.

We're relatives asking how you were and she told them? I don't know why either of you haven't heard of worms tbh. I think she's lying. They are a part of life with children and no big deal, or anything to feel embarrassed about.

YANBU to be angry re mother deliberately ignoring your request for privacy.