AIBU to still use the baby monitor?

[MoiraRoseIsMyQueen]

DS is 4, and we have a video monitor which we use while we’re downstairs in the evening, as we wouldn’t be able to hear him if he shouts us. I didn’t think anything of it until a family member remarked that we were ‘still’ using it, and now I’m wondering when is a usual time to no longer have a monitor?!

@Mostlylurkingiam During the night he can as we’re just next door (so we don’t use the monitor overnight), but he’s never been a great sleeper so it’s usual for him to be unsettled once or twice in the evening, and he wouldn’t come downstairs on his own I don’t think (or if he did he’d be so wide awake it would take him forever to get back to sleep!)

What an odd comment to make! How is it different to using something like FaceTime? We still use ours regularly

I still use it for 3.5 year old. Yes if she wakes up in the night and needs something she can get up and come and get me or her dad but I don’t want her to because then she’s much more awake and takes longer to go back to sleep. I like to have it for the evenings too, when we’re downstairs with door shut and tv on and wouldn’t hear her easily.

We never had video for DS, and stopped using sound one with him when he was about 3 and got confident about getting up to come and find us if he needed us. That said we can hear him pretty well even downstairs.

Dd we still have the monitor, she's nearly two. When we lose it will depend if we cam hear her well and if she will come get us if she needs us.

We still use a video monitor for DS1 who's 9 and has special needs.
DD is 6 and DS2 is 4 and we have a sound only monitor for them. We sleep on a different floor from them and I'd worry that we wouldn't hear them if they woke up upset.

Not comfortable with the idea of using video TBH.

A family member had CCTV cameras all over his house, including in the DC’s bedrooms. I don’t know if they still do, but they did until as recently as a year ago, and DC was 9 then.

I think sound is 1 thing, but I think that if as adults we wouldn’t be comfortable being watched constantly, then it’s not ok to do the same with children once they become able to speak for themselves.

Our house is small. We didn't bother with monitor past 2

@Daisychaincarrot

What an odd comment to make! How is it different to using something like FaceTime? We still use ours regularly

Face time? You know when you're talking to someone on FT, don't you? Not the same as having a surveillance camera in your bedroom

Dd is 4 and I still use it when we're downstairs because the house is large and I would not hear her get up. She was recently sick which I heard through the monitor and was able to go up and help, rather than her have to come down covered in vomit!