There are LOADS of Women in Technology programmes out there- particularly in banking and finance, that will provide training. Some will take people with 0 skills, some require STEM degree or some basic knowledge (stuff you can find online).
Secondly think about alternative roles in technology. You don’t actually have to be a software engineer- if you really want to learn the technical skill and go down this path, then use one of the many training programmes but if you’re not hell bent on doing the programming, there are alternatives.
I have a history degree and at 28 I am a program/project manager of an artificial intelligence project in a FinTech firm. If you had told graduate me that this is what I would be doing in 6-7 years time I would have laughed at you but I LOVE my job.
My day to day essentially involves spending time with the system users to understand their requirements of the tech, see opportunities where AI could go even further and get their opinions on these ideas. I then feedback to the technical team and we write out the technical requirements together and I organise the scheduling/timing for the builds, gain user feedback on build elements and run user testing and system releases. I also spend a lot of time in conversations about data quality, long term plans, budgets, priorities etc. Every day is different and I LOVE my job, love learning about the new technology.
As a career path, I spent 2 years arsing around not knowing what to do post uni (got a 2.2 so no grad schemes), took up contracting for other bank in a data entry role, moved to better bank in similar role for more money, ended up in operational role, got involved in some system enhancements as a user and then made the jump to join the projects team.
Promoted several times and looking for the next one. Plenty of time for learning, training, career opportunities, good company culture, decent work life balance as I am back office (except during a major release when I might work crazy hours but this is maybe once a year).
Can’t recommend it enough if you think the work is interesting (some people have told me they would die of boredom in my role!)