To be a bit peeved...

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So, what would you do?

Family member asked for money as a gift for wedding. Then asked could they have the money now, as they're "struggling" financially. Wedding not till late October.

I have already got them a personalised gift.

Very rude in my opinion.

I would do nothing. You have already got their gift. They are being grabby, rude and unreasonable. Who does that?! They do know it’s only July?

How much are we talking about and will they still expect money for the wedding?

Just say no

Give them a fiver

And if the wedding doesn't go ahead? Will you get your money back...

That's not a wedding gift, that's just giving them cash because they're broke.

I'm in absolute awe of their brass neck! If things are that tight perhaps they should be scaling back the wedding not shaking their tin can at guests!

I bet this is your relative’s way of saying they don’t want the engraved cheeseboard or whatever tat thoughtful gift you’ve got them

I personally pay the price of a meal and then some. So normally I usually give £100. Im single so it won't be a shared gift.
I thought it very rude.
How do they expect to pay for a wedding if they're in finical difficulties?

Nah, rude.

@Shirleyphallus 🤣🤣 Probably so, cheeky mare!! I genuinely can't believe it.

@SoMuchForSummerLove my thoughts exactly!!

@SoMuchForSummerLove

That's not a wedding gift, that's just giving them cash because they're broke.

This.

I often give a restaurant voucher, just say you've already bought one!

It sounds like they are in more debt than they want to admit to you. They’ve probably swallowed their pride to ask and are desperately looking for a way out. If you don’t want to give a monetary gift early or at all, just tell them you’ve already got a present.

What this is so bizarre!

I can't get my head round it. Apparently it's normal to ask for cash- ok, I don't mind this as friends have done this due to already living together and having what they need, but then to ask for money early because they're struggling. I think it's out of order. They'll be getting a gift!

You give £100 as a single guest? They've asked because they know you're too generous as it is!

Blimey - wedding present cheek really is getting out of hand!

Say nothing, but if they repeat the cheek -

Just tell them you've bought them a personal gift and it will be given when they are married.

How close is family member?

Close enough to have the balls to say this. Another family member has already replied they have bought them something. Their response "well nothing we can do about that then"..

That’s so weird are they usually like this?

The cheek! Just tell them you have already sorted their wedding gift so you are not in a position to give cash.

I never would have expected them to request this but then again they brought a bottle of wine as a wedding gift then drank it at the pre wedding party. The more I reflect on this person's behaviour, I'm horrified but can't stop laughing at how ballsy they are AND gotten away it!!