To instruct DH to change a nappy?

[regularbutnamechangedd]

I get up with the kids, one school age, one nursery age, on weekday mornings, do the breakfasts, pack the bags and then do the school/nursery run. DH currently (SE) works about half the week at home, so on those days the younger DC stays at home with DH and I do school run with other DC.

School run takes about 30-40 mins as it's a special school and they have protocols with covid.

AIBU to think that in that time DH could give DC a little snack, and maybe get them dressed for the day? Obviously on the days when he's out I do this, and they come on the school run with me.

Today DC had wet through their nappy and was distressed when I got home. DH very annoyed that I hadn't 'told him' to change their nappy.

WIBU to think he could actually parent without being told every fucking specific task along the way? Has anyone had this issue and overcome it? Prepared to be told I've made my own bed here...

Print off a todo list and laminate it place it clearly where he can see something like

Why is my child crying

1, check nappy is it wet?
2, hungry?
3, cuddles or play time?
4, in need of a competent adult who doesn't need a list to parent there own fucking CHILD

He’s being a dick. Force him to be a parent

@OoglyMoogly

DH very annoyed that I hadn't 'told him' to change their nappy

He manages to run his own business yet wants you to tell him when to change a nappy?

Could hardly believe that. He should not need telling. Tell him once and for all!

He sounds utterly useless. Sorry, but I couldn't have put up with that level of shit parenting. You have a lot more patience than me!

Can he wipe his own arse or do you have to do that too?

Google strategic incompetence.