To think that July is too soon to receive a wedding invite for April?

[UmamiMammy]

Just received an invitation to a family wedding taking place at the end of April next year. I was surprised to get it so early and can't help wondering how many people can actually know for sure so far in advance.............circumstances can change a lot in that time, new job, pregnancy, etc

I sent out my wedding invitations about 10 weeks before and I seem to remember that we had to give final numbers to the venue about a week before.

YABU..............totally normal
YANBU...........too soon

Personally I think the more notice the better. So no, I don’t think it is too long.

YABU

If you haven’t sent a save the date in advance then no not too soon as people will book weekends away in advance and often people book their first breaks for April time.

People will already have holidays planned further ahead than that. Easter is in April so 2 week school holiday then too.

Not too soon. I often have things booked into my diary 12-16 weeks in advance so love plenty of notice

They’re doing it as a save the date, especially as April is school holidays and people will book things.

I love plenty of notice. We also have a wedding to go to at the end of April and we’re given the date about 3 months ago. Not an official invite yet but a save the date. It’s great as we need to organise childcare so can ask my parents to keep the weekend free.

I think it's fine tbh. A lot of people will already be booking stuff for next year so the bride and groom want to get there first

YABU (Sorry!)

My cousin sent out invitations a year before the wedding, we accepted and then within 6 months I was pregnant and changed our answer after the 12 week scan which confirmed the due date was way too close.

There have also been deaths and fall outs in that time so more people not going.

So I think it's fine so long as the couple getting married at cool with numbers changing a lot in the in between time. Maybe a double check closer to the time? This is kinda the point of a save the date though

I understand giving people early notification of the date so that leave/hotels can be booked if needed but I am struggling with having to officially RSVP and give my food choice now.

Far too soon. Do they have an rsvp date? 6 weeks was the norm when I got married and there was no such thing as a save the date prior to that.

Forward planning. A good idea, so that anyone who will have to travel can ask for the time off the moment holiday requests can go in.

Surely OP your taste in food is unlikely to change, unless you have a health issue between now and then?

What's the point of a save the date? Just send the invitation.