Long term friend of 20 years plus making me feel really shit about myself.
She’s about to have her first baby which is great but she’s been giving me a hard time for years about my own family life.
When she was single, it was all about how I wasn’t reliable (my kids were really young at this point & had to cancel a few nights out as one of my kids had bronchiolitis & was in an out of hospital plus I was just knackered from parenting) - I tried my Best but wasn’t always able to go out. She recently had a massive go at me about this.
When she met her partner, she accused me of being jealous and not happy for her because I didn’t visit her (she moved 3 hours away so it wasn’t easy with young kids and a full time job). I did go a couple of times.
She got cross with me for making new mum friends, was critical of my parenting etc etc.
We have basically drifted as our lives were different and she’s made me feel really really guilty about it and like I have done something very wrong. She hasn’t asked me about my kids or life for at least a year and I have had a rough time during the pandemic juggling work and homeschool etc.
It’s really made me feel bad about myself and she is now not really speaking to me. She has made it clear that we can’t know about when her baby is due as it will be announced on social media.
Aibu to feel like my biggest crime has just been to be a busy mum- I have really tried my best to keep the friendship going but it is hard and she’s been demanding. She used to ring 3 times a week when the kids were young at exactly tea time & bed time & then get cross when I couldn’t speak despite me saying after 8 was better.
Aibu? I feel quite fed up about it all. It’s made me feel like a bad person.