DD is 7 and has some SN, just finishing year 2. School have told me she is not the problem but I am less convinced and think everyone will be happier if I pull her out for this last week (finish on Friday for summer).
DD is exhausted; tears most nights walking home over the littlest things (tonights was because we were having chicken burgers and waffles for tea and she really wanted that so was apparently crying because she was happy but the tears just kept coming even while she was eating) and is asleep most nights by 6pm – even DDs teacher agrees she’s ready for the holidays
Since Monday last week I’ve had the following calls or had the teacher speak to me at the end of the day:
- 2 girls in her class caught on CCTV flooding the toilets blamed DD as she was in a cubicle at the time, she was not involved at all and says she got upset and stayed in the toilet when she heard them laughing and saying to blame her (they’d have known she was there as she has a free pass to the toilet due to her SN) – this is on the CCTV apparently, it only looks at the sink area, DD is seen going into the toilet then a few minutes later the girls go in while DDs still in the cubicle, flood the toilets and leave, DD had to be rescued by her 1-1
- Same 2 girls called DD a baby on the way to the playground at the end of the day (her speech is very immature so she sounds like a 2 or 3 year old not a 7 year old)
- DD fell over on the playground (not malicious at all DDs 1-1 was there) I was called because DD couldn’t stop crying she was absolutely fine – small graze but just kept crying all afternoon ranging from a few tears to full on sobbing and back again
- DD and her best friend (who also has SN) were hugging and accidentally banged heads – tears from both
- DD and her best friend where playing together and the above 2 girls pushed them apart and called them both names
- DD had two toileting accidents on different days – this isn’t unusual for her due to her SN but they were early in the day compared to her normal ones which are usually around 2-2.30pm – these were both just after morning playtime.
- DD complaining of pain – again this is normal for her and school can and do give pain medication but it was only an hour after I’d dropped her off so they called to ask me what I wanted to do.
The two girls won’t be in DDs class in September I suspect deliberately but keeping DD away from them is my priority. The girls have had consequences according to the teacher (not told what of course) but the parents don’t agree with the school so they’re allowed to carry on (parents have been over whatsapp trying to find out “which brats reported our kids and got them kept in at playtime as it’s not on”)
As I said DD is exhausted, I have to wake her most mornings now and she’s eating very little at the start and end of the day which is unlike her.
I just want to give her a few duvet days before holiday club next week – she’s looking forward to holiday club as her friends from her out of school activities are going, I don’t want her to be too tired for it.
I have some AL days left I need to use before September and work are usually pretty good at letting me take it at short notice like this (for context I’d have used my leave last year when we were in lockdown but work put me on furlough and then parental leave, I’m a single parent)
WIBU to keep her off? Or do I make her push through until Friday? Shes with ExH this weekend so it won’t be a relaxing weekend but holiday club doesn’t start until Wednesday for her.