Me and dh live with one of his relatives for a while. This relative started getting abit sick, just common cold symptons apparently. Me and dp went to go see one of my relatives yesterday. He has ended up needing an emergency operation due to some bad results. We have come back to dp's relative being more sick. Given it's meant to be just a cold, this relative has now been sick for quite a while and seems to be getting worse. For some odd reason he is refusing to get tested. I'm upset and worried for my relative we saw yesterday. I'm trying to talk sense into my dp in hopes that he can bring his relative around and see reason but dp has the same attitude that its "just a cold" and that is that. Even if it is so surely just for a peace of mind they can do a test which takes minimal effort to find out? Aibu in expecting this. If he is positive I need to be able to tell my vulnerable family member before he goes into surgery.