To want some time away from my 3 year old?!

[Foxglove1989]

I hate being a parent. I can’t even go to the toilet by myself. My almost 3 year old follows me everywhere at the moment, it’s so draining. I’d love to just go away for the night and leave him with his dad, but he’s so attached to me. I feel suffocated.
My friend has actually just invited me for 2 nights away for her hen weekend, it’s next month, but I’ve got this fear my DS will be screaming and crying the entire time.
My DP got some ‘time away’ a couple of weeks ago, as I took him away with my parents for 3 days. But I never get any time.
I feel like just running away

Go. Your 3 year old will just have to learn to survive without you.
Your Dh will just have to do his share.

You sound very burnt out and you really must go.

Also - no-one gets any brownie points or money for being a martyr - so don't do that.

You must go on the hen do - it will be good for everyone.

Go!! My nearly 2yo is super attached to me, mostly thanks to me never being away from him thanks to the last year!! But I left him for a night recently and he was absolutely fine, not one bothered I wasn't there and was super well behaved for his dad!

Definitely go on your hen do . Even though you are a mum your still a person and we all need a little me time for our own sanity . From when dd was a few months old I have always tried to have at least one long weekend a year away with my friends and it made and still makes a massive difference. Felt a little guilty the first few times and dd cried for me for a day or so but then we both got over it as mummy was a lot more relaxed when I got home. . As far as the not be able to go to the loo alone my dd still follows me for a chat and she's 12 ! I'm so used to it now don't even close the door .

Do you ever get a couple of hours to yourself at weekend while DC’s dad deals with them? If not, start now.
Build up to a weekend away

Go on the hen do! He'll be fine!

Go go go to the hen do. Your child won’t expire because you’re not there for 48 hours.

You need time, it’s totally reasonable to want some time for you.

Go on the hen do. MASSIVELY better to have 48 hours away and recharge than to feel miserable and resentful constantly. He will be absolutely fine with his dad.

If you don't go, you are unconsciously creating a pattern where your partner gets time away and you never do. When does that end, when DS is school age? Double figures? Never? Get on that hen do and have fun, you are a mum but you are still a whole person. Your DS won't be damaged by you having a weekend away.

He's old enough for a little visual showing Friday mummy goes away, Saturday mummy is away, Sunday mummy is away and will be back before / after your'e asleep.

Go on the hen do. Parenting responsibilities also fall on the father! If it were me, I'd leave whilst he's asleep so it's not a big 'goodbye parade' that is more likely to upset him (and you). It'll do you both good and I'm sure your partner will be able to cope on his own, I very much doubt your son will be screaming and crying the entire time.