Partner just called me by his ex's name. AIBU to feel a bit put out by this??

[JackOfGentleman]

He's been separated from her for almost ten years, we've been together for five. They don't have much contact, the odd message on Facebook every so often and we're very happy and settled. We were on a video call so he could see our switchboard and he said (not real names) "Katie, oh, no, Anna....."

AIB ridiculous to feel pissed off?

Unless there are other things going on, I’d write it off as a weird brain fart.

I have nearly called my fiance by my late husband's name. Nearly 10 years since he died and we have been together nearly 3years. I would think a minor slip up.
I call my brother and my son by the wrong names constantly 😂

It'd piss me off. I'd let it go though, could've been a genuine accident

you sure he's not been in touch OP 👀

just kidding 🤣

it happens... I wouldn't berate him over it.. call him Frank from now on lol

I do this pretty often. It's not that I'm directly thinking of my ex, but more that someone has mentioned something that makes me think of something else and eventually leads to a name...

No harm done. We laugh about it.

I call everyone by the wrong name at the moment. I tend to have a list in my subconscious that I have to say out loud till I get to the right one.

I wouldn't like it but it's just a silly muddle-up. Some people do this and call you by any name.

I'm frequently referred to by the dog and cat names before they get it right.

He’s tired may be a bit out of sorts after yesterday night football. As a one off I wouldn’t worry.

What’s to be pissed off about? It’s force of habit. He had partners before you and he probably still thinks about them occasionally in the roundabout way we all thinks of most of the people we’ve known in the past. It doesn’t mean he’s secretly thinking sexy thoughts about her and got the names mixed up that way.

"Rover! Tiddles! Sooty! Oh. Err, Frown!"

Just tease him for being daft ;)

If it's a once off I really wouldn't worry. I almost called my partner by my friend's partner's name the other day just because she'd just been texting me talking about him.

Maybe he'd just had some memory pop up on his head or someone mentioned her.

Have been with dp nearly 40 years and occasionally call him my ex-husband's name (more so recently as am getting a bit flakey in my old age ) and I think my mum does as well. He just jokes about it. But then I get my children's names muddled up and call our dog by our old dog's name. Just a momentary lapse and unless you have something else that's ringing alarm bells I wouldn't think anything of it and definitely make a joke of it.

Is her real name Rachel?

My brother is over 50, my only child is 20.

They live in different countries.

I constantly call them by the others name.

We all went on holiday a few years ago, I said something to my brother using my sons name, son and brother looked at each other and said oh God it is going to be a long two weeks she has started already.

You just have to accept how you feel. Feelings aren't unreasonable or reasonable, they're just there. Sometimes like sun, sometimes like rain.

Actions are reasonable or unreasonable. 'I'm upset that you called me by your exes name' is a very different response to 'I have cut up all your clothes, thrown your telly out the window, and your dinner's in the dog, because you called me by your exes name'

Don't judge your feeling. Respond to it in a way that communicates what you feel, and maintains your dignity.

Maybe put the scissors away

I called a male friend by my late husband's name recently. DH died ten years ago. I have no idea what my brain was doing. For the record I don't fancy my friend in any way!

If there’s no wider issues I’d let it go as a mistake (or try my best too).

That's why people use "babes" 😂

Simple brain fart. I was once looking into a face of my friend while drawing blank about her name😂 She had a good laugh

Thanks everyone! I'll let it go and not sulk when he gets home tonight 😂

@JackOfGentleman

Thanks everyone! I'll let it go and not sulk when he gets home tonight 😂

Acht quite right.. big elbow if it happens again though 🎉

@JackOfGentleman

Thanks everyone! I'll let it go and not sulk when he gets home tonight 😂

Perhaps you could milk it a bit.

My partner almost called me his ex's name when we were on a video call with one of his friends 😂 he was like "oh yeah ka-erm, meg said that earlier"
His friend almost choked on his own spit and I thought it was hilarious.
I did it referring to his grandmother once too. Talking at work about going out to dinner with partners gran and accidently said "was out for dinner last night with ex's name gran last night!"
Someone had mentioned running in to my ex in town a few minutes before and it just came out!

Nothing to worry about, a slip of the tongue

Yabu MASSIVELY.

It happens. I've been married nearly 30 years, taken DH's last name all that time and called myself by my maiden name a few weeks ago. I've also called my DSs by my DBs' names. I wouldn't be bothered.

I did it, I saw my friend do it. It’s just a slip up.