to have lost my rag with a meddling pensioner?

[wrinklytum]

OK,I guess her age was irrelevant really.I was waiting for the lifts in our local hospital to go and see dp,he is quite a few floors up,and I have ds with me and dd in her stroller (she cannot walk,as has SN).

Anyhow we were waiting patiently and two elderly women pushed in front of me and were muttering very loudly about "all these damaned buggies,thats why we have to wait for the lifts,I don't know why they don't walk up the stairs with the kids".At this point the red mist came down,I tapped the woman smartly on the shoulder and said in my calmest but most deadly voice."Actually,I would love it if my daughter COULD walk up the stairs,but seeing as she has special needs she can't,and by the way,I have been waiting a lot longer than you have".At which point the lift arrived and she scuttled in looking suitably chastened.

So was I?I do not usually berate elderly ladies,honest

For god sake seeker and nonametoday!

Get off your high horses!

Must be great to be as perfect as you two.

Oh and well done to wrinkly tum.

I would have rammed the back of her legs with the pram for good measure.

Now that would be assault

you know, it is ok to have differing opinions without it being the automatic high ground....

Seeker, IF we all become obnoxious self centered old battle axes then we shall deserve to get treated like that too..

She mentioned it because she was describing the situation not because she thought how old the woman was was relevant, it was you that assumed that thats what she meant..

I'm fed up with people pussy footing around in converstions for fear of being called a something ist..

what next, fatist, bad tasteist, chavist ?

Elderly people are often particularly shocking when it comes to comments about disabilities- because they were not exposed to special needs or disabilities. Honestly after you've been at the end of a few choice comments about your child you love then really you tend to lose patience. I've had comments from elderly people about ds1 that have left me open mouthed.

seeker, if I speak to people like the elderly mentioned in this post do, then I shall bloody well expect to be treated like crap!

WT you ahd a perfect right to be angry, the comments some people come out with are really unbeleivable at times.

Some of the posts after about OAP's are a bit saddening however, but thats been said now.

Agree Yurt ahs a point about the non exposure to Sn in the past- sure thats got a lot to do with any imbalance if there is any (I find middle aged poeple worst but there you go- just the people you encounter)

I dont think you lost your rag at all WT good response and will teach her not to stereotype and be so damm rude, as you say her age is irrelevant (sp)

Elderly people are particularly shocking when it comes to comments about disabilities because in their day they just used to stick anyone who wasn't perfect in an asylum. To be honest I think there are one or two good'uns but the majority of elderly people I meet are horrid. I have given all my ds's strict instructions that if I ever form the opinion that because I'm old I've earned the right to be an obnoxious tosser they are to have me put down......

Exactly, LazyLinePainterJane, so would I. But I would expect to be treated like crap whether I was 19 or 90. The OP was treated bady by a horrible person. It doesn't matter that the person was old and she weakens her point by mentioning the age of the witch concerned.

seeker. if you are worried about discrimination pop into "other" there is a thread in there which really shows what discrimination is.

Seeker, I originally read this thread because of the thread title, because I dislike someone who is horrid being characterised by their age (or whatever) and would have commented, but the OP had already made the point that the age was irrelevant.

And if I behaved this way at any point then I would be disgusted with myself. Whether or not I'm a pensioner is irrelevant.

another thread dissected

oh fgs the point was not that she was a meddling pensioner but that she was meddling AND a pensioner,(thus making OP feel guilty for being sharp) surely.
Either way this is leeeyooodicrusss.

OMG I posted this late last night in contemplative mood and had no idea it would get all of these replies.!!

Seeker,I was not trying to be ageist,could probably have worded the op differently,mind!

What annoyed me was that,as a rule,I try to treat people with respect (Give up seats on buses to elderly people etc etc)I can also see that priority should be given to people who are elderly for getting lifts etc.It was the fact she pushed past me (banging dds legs) and then made a loud rude comment meant for my hearing.I had had a bad day.Now if I have ds with me we walk upstairs but it is impossible with dd.I think I was a bit suprised at myself for tackling her as I am ususally of the "Let it go" mentality.By the way,I did not assault her,just tapped her lightly on the shoulder to attract her attention after she had trodden on my child!!

Will put it to bed now

(hugs Wt)

sorry you had this upsetting comment wrinkly. Fortunately I've only ever had one awful comment about DS. But it is so hurtful when you/your child is being criticised for something out of their control.

YANBU.....good for putting them straight.

Old people moany people are just young moany people who have got old.

I am all for respecting the aged but to give them carte blanche to just behave in anyway they see fit...no I am sorry.

Murderer and peadophiles get old does that mean they turn into cute old men and women...no they are just the same in old bodies.

Infact while I am one the rant train...they should have MORE compassion because they have seen more of life and how crappy it can be. There.

And they also moan about being poor...well I have been behind them in the post office on pension day and they all que up for the lottery and scratch cards...so there

I was helping a young mother (age27yo but looks much younger) where I work with her new born son who is also her third child. When he was about 8 days old, she was with him in the high street and a couple of old busy bodies walked by. One of them said loudly

"There goes another underage mother who does nothing but sponge off the tax payer!

The young mother was very upset by their judgemental attitude because they knew nothing about her but felt justified in making loud, noxious statements that she could hear.

Also, last Christmas when my DTS were 2yo, we were in a shop and they were laughing loudly. An old biddy turned round and shouted at them to shut up!

I don't understand why these people have to be so miserable and cantankerous.

I have come to the conclusion that there are some miserable, small minded, opinionated, bullying, mean minded people about who like to spread the misery and it isnt restricted to one age group