Highlighting cliques when school groups change

[Changingnamesnow]

I moved schools a lot as a kid. I don’t have much emotion about it in some ways as I believe adaptability is a good quality to have. However, for factors out of my control all kids in my DC’s class are having to move school.

I have just had a parent telling me how at least 80% of the kids in said class are on a n online group and have been chatting ‘all day’ since this has happened.

It has to be said my response was that well it sounds like it’s time for x to just move on (which I do think anyway and my dc are quite clinical anyway) but am I right to be internally a bit pissed and feel that this parent was just trying to make us feel a bit shit

Sorry maybe I’m reading this wrong but I really don’t understand. Every other child in your DC’s class has to move school and the parents are saying it a shame and you think it’s a dig at you?

Or your DC is moving schools and a parent was telling you all the children have been talking about it all day, I assume because they’re sad about it. If that’s it it’s a nice thing to tell you. It’s not really cliques either way though?

So your child is not in the 80% chatting, is that right?

Why would you assume they were trying to make you feel bad rather than sharing information on something they felt was positive?

It is a bit unusual to be so detached and disconnected from people as to be emotionless about the mass ending of relationships.

You might scorn them but emotions are useful and important. Adaptability is a good quality if it means skilled in coping with emotions, not if it means emotionless. The latter is not a good thing.

Sorry basically I was told that there was a group (that my DC had been clearly not invited to) have been chatting online since the kids left,

I had no idea this group existed until I was informed. I guess I would ask why would you go through all named members of this group when you knew a child had been excluded. Now as I say our DC never know the difference. I do tho,

This happened to me & my ds, he got a place at a Catholic school even though we aren't Catholic, most of the other pupils & families already knew each other as the parents met at church & quite a few were former pupils of the school. Everything was OK in reception & then when ds was in Y1 my marriage ended, not my fault, my exh was abusive & did something that meant I had to leave him. From the moment that happened ds & I were ostracised, ds wasn't invited to parties or playdates, I was cut out of all the parent's activities, blocked from the WhatsApp group, even the staff from the school treated me differently. I wanted to move ds to a different school but my exh refused to allow it & school threatened me with social services. Nobody could have been happier than ds & I when he left to go to secondary school. I found the playground attitudes from other parents exactly as you would children at school, parents forming cliques, whispering, dirty looks & intimidation, thankfully secondary school is totally different, I couldn't recognise another parent if you asked me.