Neighbour blasting music on the front, AIBU?

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I get it, it's a monumental occasion and everybody is excited for the game. We're watching it too (me fleetingly!)

But is it really acceptable to be blasting extremely loud music from his car on the (shared) front area. He has people round watching the game indoors but for some reason thinks the street wants to hear his music which is basically inaudible due to the amount of bass.

I'm 6 months pregnant and have two small children. We'll never get to sleep through this racket if it continues.

AIBU or is he?

Get the hose out.

OH doesn't want to go round and ask them to turn it down because there's a ton of them rowdy and drunk and he thinks it might cause trouble.

It's also pointless making a complaint about disturbing the peace as the police will be extra busy tonight. I'm majority pissed off with him.

Why don’t you go round and nicely ask them to turn the car music off?

@user1473878824

Why don’t you go round and nicely ask them to turn the car music off?

Same reason as OH doesn't want to, the potential for it to cause more issues.

He's.. how can I put it.. not the most law abiding of people.

Ahh what a bugger. In all senses of the phrase! Sorry OP.

I love when people say ‘just ask them to turn it down’ as if all people are lovely and nice and will apologise.

It's one night.

Ask him to turn it down or put some ear plugs in and go to sleep.

Your pregnancy has nothing to do this.

Well that escalated quickly, OH ended up going outside to them and losing his shit and probably the moral high ground in the process with the things he shouted.

Music is now off but a few minutes later they've come knocking on the door. I told him not to open it. Oh ffs.

Blimey hopefully they’ve come to apologise but I think you’re right not to answer.

Another neighbour was out there too, telling them to knock it off albeit in a much more diplomatic way.

OH did gesture to them to turn it down before he lost his temper but the bloke playing it just shrugged.

I too hope the knock was for an apology. I'm a bit nervous now.

I would say the fact they’ve turned it off is a positive sign they’re not looking for more trouble but it’s gone midnight, drunk will have been consumed and england lost so I wouldn’t be engaging any further tonight. If they keep knocking I would call the police

**drink

@SnarkyBag

I would say the fact they’ve turned it off is a positive sign they’re not looking for more trouble but it’s gone midnight, drunk will have been consumed and england lost so I wouldn’t be engaging any further tonight. If they keep knocking I would call the police

You raise some good points.

OH is one of the least confrontational people I know and I've only ever heard him shout his a handful of times in all of the years we've been together. He's on the autism spectrum and the stress from the volume and length of time it was going on sent him into meltdown. It doesn't help that our DS (also autistic) was getting upset.

The neighbour doesn't know that though, all he's seen is OH going batshit saying he'll rip the stereo out and smash it up

Well they turned it off when your H lost his temper. They didn't start a fight did they? The way you described them initially, implied that they would.

Maybe you're after a "well done" here but none of you sound neighbourly anyway.

@DeeCeeCherry

Well they turned it off when your H lost his temper. They didn't start a fight did they? The way you described them initially, implied that they would.

Maybe you're after a "well done" here but none of you sound neighbourly anyway.

He takes and I suspect sells drugs is what I meant by not law abiding. I don't think it's a good idea to confront anybody like that.

Definitely not after a well done. I would have preferred he didn't go out there at all.

That sounds stressful and upsetting OP. I hope nothing comes of it.

I'd try and steer clear of the neighbours for a while until things have calmed down. Tonight is unlikely to be the time to sort it. What's done is done, even if going down there was unwise. Try to get some rest.

@dontgobaconmyheart

That sounds stressful and upsetting OP. I hope nothing comes of it.

I'd try and steer clear of the neighbours for a while until things have calmed down. Tonight is unlikely to be the time to sort it. What's done is done, even if going down there was unwise. Try to get some rest.

Thank you. I'll try and do exactly that.

Neighbour only lives two doors down and we share the same front area so avoiding him will be difficult but hopefully he and OH will make their peace when he next sees him.