To want to go back to work?

[MrsTxx]

I’m a SAHM with a DS 2yo (nearly 3)who’s starting school nursery in september. My DH works full time over 4 days and financially supports us. Money is alright but I’d like to earn some for myself now il soon have more free time, for days out and little luxuries for the family. I’ve been offered a part time permanent contract that means i won’t have to pay for extra childcare when DS is at school ( I have family willing to help until he starts nursery). I am really excited.

My DH on the other hand isn’t happy. I did sit down and explain to him he would have to help out in the house more on his days off if I’m working. He is adamant he does enough in the house and earns enough so I don’t have to work. I on the other hand think he doesn’t do enough housework but it didn’t really bother me while I’m staying at home. He has been in a mood with me since I’ve been offered a job and thinks I should stay at home. While I had a lovely time looking after the home and our son I believe it’s time for me to get some adult socialisation and some of my own money.
Am I being unreasonable to want to go back to work?

@MrsTxx

Thankyou, I am definitely taking the job. I think I’ve just been in a baby daze and let things slip with him doing his bit when he’s home. He is a good man and father I just think he’s gotten lazy and used to being waited on hand and foot! No more DH I have an eye on a new pair of shoes that I can’t wait to buy from my first pay!! Thanks for all of your advice :) I will look into a cleaner too as I think that could help

I'm glad you're taking the job OP, and also splitting the bill for the cleaner 50/50 as you will both benefit from this. Also the longer you are out of work the harder it will be to become re-employed, especially in the current jobs market when so many people are job hunting because of Covid redundancies - and possibly more to come...

Your money isn't just for luxuries either either, though that's nice. Open your own private bank accounts (current and savings) to ensure a better degree of long term financial independence than it sounds like you have at the moment. Finally don't forget you need to ensure your OWN pension is secure (both State and private/occupation which you can contribute to) to ensure your long term financial security. Check if you need to make National insurance payments to ensure you'll get your full State pension when you are able to claim. The earlier you do this the better for you. 🌹