To say somebody is better off because my dd is their friend and this makes me so happy

[Gameofbones]

My dd has just turned 16 she has struggled with autism and friendship groups and suicidal thoughts for so long. Every day is a minefield and a struggle for her.

She had her birthday party this week. Her best friend is a trans boy. I went into her bedroom earlier to take her dirty bloody cups downstairs and the card from her friend was on display and it said ‘thank you for being my best friend and never judging me I wouldn’t be here today if it wasn’t for you thank you’.

This has made me prouder than anything else she has ever done. In all the shit she goes through she made someone else want to be alive.

Yes ive had 2 glasses of wine but please allow me this.

Awww, that’s so lovely. Good on your DD and well done for bringing her up proper like!

That’s so lovely. My caring qualities were never recognized by my parents. I’m also ND (ADHD) and always had a strong sense of inclusion, justice, hated to see people left out or bullied. My parents were grade and achievement focused and saw those qualities as a weakness or “time wasting” if I helped other kids rather than focusing on getting ahead myself. It’s wonderful you can see the value in your daughter’s friendship.

Be as proud of your daughter for this as you like!

A proud parent moment is when the child is a friend who doesn't judge and accepts a person for being as they are. Your child has her own stuff and still was that friend for someone. Be very proud and be very proud of yourself for helping to get her there 💐

@PineappleMojito

That’s so lovely. My caring qualities were never recognized by my parents. I’m also ND (ADHD) and always had a strong sense of inclusion, justice, hated to see people left out or bullied. My parents were grade and achievement focused and saw those qualities as a weakness or “time wasting” if I helped other kids rather than focusing on getting ahead myself. It’s wonderful you can see the value in your daughter’s friendship.

Be as proud of your daughter for this as you like!

Having my child think of someones feelings would be way above high grades. Be proud of who you are and getting to be that person on your own ❤

I don’t care what GCSEs she gets I’m relieved she made it through school in one piece. For me every day is a blessing she is here,

You’ve done an amazing job raising her, enjoy your proud moment and the many more proud moments to come

Be proud OP. Thank goodness for people like your DD ❤️

I'm with you :) Teenage ASC dd here. When someone recognises their fierce loyalty and deep understanding of difference and sees it as the positive thing it is. Fabulous.
Well done you two

Oh bless her, this is lovely.

She sounds amazing. Her friend clearly adores her and it sounds like she’s been a wonderful support.

You’ve raised an absolutely amazing young woman there, OP.

Having a little cry now. She is a good good person. Yes she doesn’t get upset or show empathy over things other people would do and sometimes she can be a bit robotic but this makes me happy.

So good that they can write their feelings of love and appreciation like this. Friends mean the world.

How lovely! Of course you should be proud!

You must be a great parent to turn out such a great kid. I hope the two kids stay friends for many years to come.

She sounds like a lovely friend.

As an aside, I’m not in the UK and when you wrote ‘dirty bloody cups’ I understood it as you were collecting her menstrual cups and I was like 🤮 🤣

And tbh. So many parents of autistic people have to struggle and battle for every bloody little thing for their child. You deserve to celebrate the nice times. Bask in this moment and hang on to the memory for if/when the going gets tough again.

@Beadley

She sounds like a lovely friend.

As an aside, I’m not in the UK and when you wrote ‘dirty bloody cups’ I understood it as you were collecting her menstrual cups and I was like 🤮 🤣

I'm glad someone else said it because I read it that way at first too Did a proper double take at the post.

I am very proud that she is so inclusive and non Judgemental. My younger dd came out as gay. When her sister told her she just looked at her and said ‘well to be honest I’m not surprised, why is she bothering telling anyone I thought we all knew.’

No menstrual cups, just glasses of milk and god knows what she is growing penicillin in.

That’s absolutely lovely

@Gameofbones

I am very proud that she is so inclusive and non Judgemental. My younger dd came out as gay. When her sister told her she just looked at her and said ‘well to be honest I’m not surprised, why is she bothering telling anyone I thought we all knew.’

🥰

That's lovely OP.

Ah thank you. I’ve got a bit of a sore head this morning.