Am I being unreasonable expecting him to get the Covid vaccine when I’m 28 weeks pregnant?

[Babynumberone369]

My partner is in the army and currently living on camp, spending time with lots of different people everyday. With the raise in Covid cases and entering my third trimester I’m getting more and more anxious about Covid and the risks of still births and prem babies…

He is refusing to get the vaccine because of all the anti vaxxer rubbish he’s watched online. I’m at the point of refusing to see him until the baby is here…is that unfair? I don’t know what to do for the best.
Would you get the jab instead?
Thank you :)

He is refusing to get the vaccine because of all the anti vaxxer rubbish he’s watched online.

Normally I would express sympathy with you, especially since you're pregnant by him, which makes running for the hills that bit harder.

But you haven't had it either, so it's a case of six of the one, half a dozen of the other here, I think. ¯\(ツ)/¯

@Aprilx that was the advice I was given by my midwife and Dr. Neither have been happy to advise me to do it, I've just been told to read more about it and make a decision....which until some of these reply's hasn't made me feel very sure it's ok. No one I know personally who's pregnant has had it.

He's also made it quite clear he doesn't want me having it, gets quite angry and says I'm putting the baby at risk of all sorts if I suggest it.

Have the jab. It's advised for all pregnant women. If you're concerned watch the pregnant then screwed YouTube webinar about it.

He's also made it quite clear he doesn't want me having it, gets quite angry and says I'm putting the baby at risk of all sorts if I suggest it.

Oh dear . Protect yourself and your child. Is he generally anti vaxx or is it specifically the covid jab?

Get the jab yourself! I'm pregnant with quite a few pregnant friends and I don't know a single one who hasn't had it. At my most recent midwife appointment she said nearly all the women she'd seen recently had opted to have it. I'm extremely surprised you've only been advised to have it if front line - not heard that from a single medical professional. I'm anxiously awaiting my second jab now and I'll be relieved when it's done.

Get the vaccine, ask him not to come home. Ever. Job done. I wouldn't be prepared to share a home with someone who wasn't prepared to protect me and our unborn child. And I couldn't share a life with someone who believed all that bullshit.

@AnUnoriginalUsername

It's not your body. Imagine if he was insisting you breastfed for the benefit of your baby when you didn't want to.

It's not "anti vaxxer bullshit" to not want to inject something into your body without knowing the long term effects.

Oh shut up.

Oh shut up

Not a valid argument.

He’s every right not to get the jab, you can get it done and then not have to worry anymore.

You should get the jab for yourself. Still birth and premature birth is higher among women who were not vaccinated and subsequently caught Covid. Almost 100,000 pregnant women have been vaccinated in the US alone.
I think he's an idiot for not getting the vaccine, but it's his body and if he wants to make those choices for himself you can't stop him.
Fwiw I am pregnant too, I'm having my second jab in the coming weeks.

www.bbc.com/news/health-57193361

If your Dr is unsure about a pregnant woman getting the jab, I probably wouldn’t listen to ransoms on the internet telling me to get the jab.

@CoopsMalloops

If your Dr is unsure about a pregnant woman getting the jab, I probably wouldn’t listen to ransoms on the internet telling me to get the jab.

I would be more inclined to think I had spoken to a rogue doctor since the medical profession as a whole supports pregnant women having a vaccination.

You can’t force him to do anything to his body he doesn’t want to do and it would be a huge red flag to try and do so.
You can have the vaccine if you choose to, it’s available to anyone over 18 who wants it.
At the end of the day you did choose to have a baby in the middle of a pandemic and are likely to meet plenty of unvaccinated people and those vaccinated can still contract the virus anyway,

That is not correct.

You are being reasonable to refuse to see him - or only socially distanced outside or whatever you are comfortable with. His body his choice for vaccine, but your body, your choice for who you choose to see.

I am 20wks pregnant and if my scan is ok will book my 1st jab - but until then am isolating as much as possible. I spoke to midwife and obstetrician about this- they thought my approach sounded reasonable (to wait until 20wks as more of baby development would have happened, but to aim to have both before 3rd trimester as there is some evidence that there is a higher than normal rate of adverse events in those women who test positive for covid around time of birth - see rcog website). But it’s a hard decision with a few different options (eg isolate, jab now, wait until x weeks go jab) and different people having different exposures (eg wfh vs public facing job) and risk (eg additional medical problems)