Feel like id be better off on my own

[Jr2020]

I absolutely love my boyfriend but it’s getting to the point where I genuinely feel like I would Be better off on my own. We have an 8 month old baby, from the start he has not pulled his weight and I’ve been more than vocal about this on numerous occasions. He does not take the load off me at all, never offers me a break, takes her off me, asks to have her by himself whilst I go bath or go out, never offers anything in general.
Yes, he works long hours and some nights, but at least he gets to switch off, can book a holiday off, can get a night sleep etc. I get none of that, but I don’t mind because it’s for my babygirl.
My point is it’s getting too much now. The housework, the laundry, the dishes, I can NEVER get on top of it. Am I fair in thinking every night he’s here, when I’m up settling baby it’s only right if he’s downstairs tidying what’s needed in the house?
Most nights when he’s not working, I come back down for settling her and he’s fast asleep on the sofa. Won’t wake up from about 7pm to 10-11pmish by that time I’m up in bed, it’s unfair. Getting to the point where I know if I had a place just for me and baby, it would be more organised. yes ok I’m sure there would be days where it’s a mess but i wouldn’t mind like I do now because at least there is only me and my baby making the mess, and only me to clean it! I wouldn’t be getting mad that someone else is there who chooses to sleep over cleaning up.
He just does not make my life any easier at all. I hate to say it but he just adds to my work load and it’s never been any different. Baby is suffering from her first sickness bug, I’ve been up all night with her last night, and said to him earlier this evening, please when she’s in bed can we sort the house out it’s a mess I want it sorted, I go up to settle her, been up and down many times now yet he’s fast asleep on the sofa. Nothing has been touched!
Don’t even know the point of this post but getting to the point now where the sight of him sleeping whilst I’m doing everything is making my blood actually boil.

In a way I would encourage you to stick at it and at least talk to him. How old is he? I only ask because my (now stbexh) was only 26 when we had our first and he was beyond bloody useless. When he wasn't at work he was out with his mates while I was quietly suffering exhaustion at home. A couple of years later, he was a different man. But he was essentially a dumb kid when we had our first.

But, if the rot runs deeper and you don't love him, then for sure you are better off alone. And now, not when you are driven to bitterness or when your dd is older and more attached to him.

This is awful! You would be better off alone. I think you need to make a firm stance now. He pulls his weight or he’s gone. Then he’ll have to learn how to parent and do absolutely everything you’ve been doing for him on his own!