Age gap relationship

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My sister (27 y/o) has started seeing a 45 y/o man and I'm just wondering at what point does an age gap become too much?

My OH and I have 8 years between us and it's just about worked but any older would be too much. This new man is 3 years off the same age as our dad ..

@Shelddd

We have 5 years age gap.. 8 years is too much though.

Load of rubbish and extremely narrow minded. People are not all the same as you: shocking, I know.

DH was 22 years older than me, we were very happy.

I said the same

My husband is 47 and I'm 31 😂 all good here.. although he's started wittering on about gardening which is hilarious

My OH and I have 8 years between us and it's just about worked but any older would be too much.

There’s 5 months between DH and I - anything more than that is ‘too much’.

A lot of narrow minded people around! Hilarious that someone might think an older man is a “lower” option…I had plentiful options my own age (in fact had just got out of a relationship with someone my own age) but my older man was just everything I wanted. Funny because I can’t imagine being with those younger men now and even men in their 30s (my age now) seem very undesirable to me.

How odd that you feel that an older man is a 'low' option. That's just so weird.

There is something a bit grim/ick/off about men who go out with women young enough to be their daughters.

I have all sorts of pre-conceived ideas about such men - I may or may well not be right - but I certainly do pre-judge them as deficient.

Veering slightly off topic I was shocked to read that Gary Lineker was 60 years old! He's a very good advert for the age if not at all typical

An age gap is only too much if the people in question think it is.
It'd be too much for me, but that's irrelevant.

The traditional response was always "Half the elder's age, plus seven", which this relationship is just outside of.

At the end of the day though, even if we find it a bit icky, she's a grown adult rather than a vulnerable 17 year old and therefore old enough to make her own decisions. If they're happy, that's great.

My mother and sister are both with older men (both 14 years older) and married a long time.

I dated someone older and it’s just not for me. I don’t have an much in common with them. I like someone my own age that I can’t relate to.

There are 20 years between DH and I. I was 29 when we got together, 36 now. Very happy.

We have 22 years between us. We work well. Yeah in 20 years I may not be happy anymore, but you could say that for a person of any age. I'm not going to write off current happiness because I might not still be happy in 20 years when there's no guarantee I will be by dating someone my age.

@DdraigGoch

Traditional response is one thing, trying to make it a hard and fast rule is daft. About as sensible in using 'an apple a day keeps the doctor away' as hard and fast health advice.

My partner is 16 years older than me, we started going out when I was 20 and he was 36, now I’m 37 and he’s in his 50s and I still fancy him rotten. I think as long as everyone is over the age of 18 it doesn’t matter. I also think we were both at the same stage in life despite the age difference I already had a baby and he was ready to settle down. I’m glad he sowed all his oats before me, I’ve never had to deal with him having lads nights out and going on benders etc

14 year age gap, 20 years together. It's obviously not that big an issue.

Half plus 7??? Who made that shit up?? 😂

Your sister is a grown woman, it's up to her. At the moment she is only 'seeing' him, it may not progress further. However some big age gap relationships work well, we can't generalise.

@Sometimeswinning

14 year age gap, 20 years together. It's obviously not that big an issue.

Half plus 7??? Who made that shit up?? 😂

A French author www.dictionary.com/e/slang/half-your-age-plus-seven/

A French author

Ah so some random author 😂 Ok. Best end my 20 year relationship! Tbf any age can be creepy. It depends what age everyone was when they first met surely??