To want to go to my home country

[coronabeers]

For couple of weeks this summer? We would have otherwise but because of cost of tests Dh doesn't want to go. We could afford it. The only plan is to go to IL's caravan where PIL would be most of the time too. I hate going there but I have persevered because dh and dc like it there. We have no other plans and I feel that school holidays are wasted.

Do you live in the UK? Is DH British?

Irrespective of the question of hassle and cost, if the above is correct then it seems a bit bloody mean of your DP to not want to cough up so you can have a little time back in your home country, but expects you to spend your holiday with his family, when he presumably hasnt being dealing with the struggle of being cut off from his "people" and native country for the past year or so.

In your shoes I would let DH take the kids to his parents' shitty caravan, and take yourself off back home. Is that an option?

Yes. We live in UK and dh is British. I come from amber European country. Last time we went to my home country was last summer. We don't need any tests going there because we are double vaccinated. Only pre flight and 2. day.

I could go alone but then it is summer cottage I want to go and it's not that much fun alone.

If it's not going to break you financially then I'd say go!

It is harsh that your husband is happy to spend summer with his family but it's his foot down when you mention visiting yours. I wouldn't be impressed by that.

@coronabeers
Even though a nice holiday villa would be great, dont you think you would enjoy staying with a friend over there or family? Or do you have a friend from your country or the UK who would want to get a rental over there with you?

I guess those are practicalities though. Basically I wouldnt be happy at all with DP doing this, i think it sounds mean spirited and completely lacking in empathy. Does he have form for this?

I don't think he is mean spirited but possibly lacking empathy. He seems to think we can't go as a family to my home country until they drop tests.

I will be going alone in October when dh goes with dc to PIL.

Today I have been trying to explain him that we visited PIL twice in May when it was possible. It's four hour drive there. He wanted to see his parents. I tried to explain that I feel the same in terms of going to my country. I can go alone when they go to caravan but I would like to go as a family to a holiday. I don't really know how persuade him.

He can take the kids to see his folks alone this time then. You can't persuade him to go as a family to your own country so just stick to your own plans.

That’s really inconsiderate of your dh. It’s been a tough time and it’s completely understandable you want to see your family. Take the kids and go.

He’s. Being a Dick
It’s just an excuse because he doesn’t want to go