Am I too old? Is it too late? We have one DD. She is 11. We only ever planned to have one child, for many reasons. One of the main reasons was that we wanted to give her all the things we didn’t have ourselves- things like sending her to private school. We could only afford to do that for one child.
As the years went by, I did come to regret not giving her a sibling. She did (and does) have all the things we wanted to give her. But some of the things we put so much importance on, don’t seem good enough a reason to have not had another child.
We realise how fortunate we are to live in an area that is served by outstanding state primary schools. Our second child would go to one of those schools. That is the only difference. But is that fair? Our 11 year old has asked for a sibling as long as I remember and still does now. I’m well aware this is probably the last chance we have (if we even conceive) and I’m worried about the possible risks. I’m torn between thinking I’m just going through a wobbly stage due to my age and the acceptance that my biological clock really is ticking now, to feeling regret that we didn’t have a second child years ago, and regret over the things we put above having a second child. They would / will be surrounded by love and will have a good life.
But am I being unreasonable to do this now? Is it selfish? Or were we selfish all along not giving our DD a sibling?
I’m so torn.