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Friend and health

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lastqueenofscotland · 09/07/2021 23:47

I’ve got a friend I’ve known for decades (primary school) and she’s was a bit indulged by her parents, was frequently not in school as she stubbed her toe/didn’t sleep that well/didn’t feel herself… etc

We are in our 30s now and in general has tended to have one up on people, if you went to Tenerife she went to elevenerife. However had been generally good to chat to over Covid comparing notes on dumb shows on Netflix and baking disasters.

I confided in her about how hard I was finding dealing with a close family members diagnosis of a very nasty condition made worse by not being able to see them due to covid. A couple of days later she announced she thought she had something similar, (this is a nasty, life limiting, potentially life threatening condition). Since then she’s been to the GP/A&E countless times, who have humoured her to an extent and carried out blood/urine tests but (obviously) found nothing wrong with her. When this happened she asked her mum to pay for a private doctor to look at the same issues. Again, shockingly, nothing. This week she’s been in touch about this again, and now claims she has “cured” herself with homeopathy and these doctors know nothing, and my family member should try the same thing, I pointed out I doubted that was likely, but she is adamant she did have this permanent, life limiting condition that this family member has.

We are not very young, so it’s not a case of someone gimmature being a bit daft. We have been close friends for a long time but after this event I really want to cool the friendship. This blatant attention seeking and claiming something so unpleasant, and then even worse that it was cured by something so heavily researched to be ineffective has really made me see her in a different light.
Would you call her out or would you just take a step back?

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purpleme12 · 10/07/2021 00:18

Have you specifically said you her why she's saying she had this thing when no medical person diagnosed her? I would say that yes
And I'd say to her she can't know she got it unless she was diagnosed
And I might not be able to keep what I'm feeling inside if it carries on after that

lastqueenofscotland · 10/07/2021 00:22

I’ve tried to steer of the subject quickly when she’s got onto it as I don’t think I’d be able to be very polite about it!

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osbertthesyrianhamster · 10/07/2021 00:24

I have no patience for people like this and would have cooled the friendship/backed off long ago without a jot of guilt. Do it and be free!

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