Why are some men such dicks?

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I've just come in from our local high street with my 13 year old DD. We were crossing a road at the the top of the high street, carefully, when two young men beeped the horn behind us, laughing, saying "it's a road" etc etc.
I was enraged and called them a pair of pricks.
I tried to walk away but they carried on goading so I gave them the middle finger.
They continued to try to goad me but I went into a shop to calm down.
How dare they try to intimidate me!
If it had only been one of them in the car, neither would have had the nuts to say anything, nor would it had happened if I was a man.
I'm just so angry.

You had to go into a shop to calm down? I assume DD is lying down to try and get over the embarrassment of all of this.

Some people are dicks. Your reaction is pretty massive though.

I find a lot of car drives to be like this tbh, I was stood at the side of the road waiting for my daughter and a car came speeding down the street and abruptly stopped right where I was, I wasn’t trying to cross or even attempting to it was just a side road not a crossing of any type. I stood there and the driver wound down the window and called me a “fucking bitch” and “why the fuck aren’t you crossing if I’ve stopped for you” They then drove off, the worst part was there was an elderly woman in the car with him and she was laughing her head off. It was all very bizarre.

I was enraged and called them a pair of pricks.
I tried to walk away but they carried on goading so I gave them the middle finger.

Doesn’t sound like they were the only dicks involved.

I can't say because I don't know the full situation but how can we know you didn't just walk in the road when cars were coming? We only know your side. I don't think it's to do with the fact that you're a woman. My ex used to shout at people all the time that would walk into the road, men and women.

You obviously weren't crossing the road carefully if you got in the way of a car... Especially seeing as you had a child with you. A bit odd that you called them pricks and you gave them the finger after you got in their way...not sure how you've managed to convince yourself you're the victim here. Maybe some men are dicks to you because you're a dick? Do you find women are dicks to you too? If not, are you less of a dick to women?

They weren't trying to intimidate you. They were taking a piss and you took that bait, eat it and eat another one too.

That's awful.

Misogyny OP. Misogyny.

I would say though you shouldn't swear in front of your daughter. Rise above these pondlife.

To be fair you don’t exactly come out well in this story OP. Also some people are just dicks, it’s not exclusively men. Pretty sure ignoring them would have been more effective (same with attention seeking toddlers..), they got exactly what they wanted.

Because they can be. Nothing stops testosterone bullcrap. I'm sick of it.

I get it OP. After decades of microaggressions from hundreds of men the ability to silently accept it just fades away.

Well, you've just taught your daughter that the appropriate response to being honked at by strange men is to curse at them, flip them off, and engage in an extended argument over nothing. Let's hope every loudmouth she encounters in the future is harmless and not prone to violence, and you never have cause to regret this.

@PurpleOkapi

Well, you've just taught your daughter that the appropriate response to being honked at by strange men is to curse at them, flip them off, and engage in an extended argument over nothing. Let's hope every loudmouth she encounters in the future is harmless and not prone to violence, and you never have cause to regret this.

At least she hasn't taught her that men are to go unchallenged, that women's anger might upset them, that she might bring upon herself trouble when she stands up for herself, and that men being vile is "nothing". I pity any Dd you have

Well it sounds like you got in the way of a car on a road so you weren't being that careful. And the way you kicked off is just as bad as them.

@PumpkinKlNG
The guy didn't react well but it is so annoying when people stand at the road waiting when they're not crossing. You look like you're waiting to cross, so people stop then you just bloody stand there. Move back from the road a bit.

You should have just completely ignored them and pretended not to notice, these idiots really don't like it when nobody is noticing how hilariously funny and clever they are, leaves them feeling all small and isignificant, like they are.

That’s quite an aggressive reaction you had there, from what you’ve written they started it but you rudely escalated it?

If there would have been 2 blokes walking across the road no way in hell would they have said anything.

@aubreyii No, she's taught her that public histrionics are an appropriate response to minor discourtesies. I pity the child of anyone who thinks that way, both because it makes the child's life much harder than it needs to be, and because there's a non-zero risk it could result in physical harm to the child. But hey, OP feels better about herself, and to some people, that's the only thing that matters. And yes, I'd say exactly the same thing if it was the child's father who'd had a public meltdown over rude motorists.

Seriously, what was the point of all this? Maybe they were being sexist, or maybe they really didn't care who was in their way - what difference does it make? Does OP making a fool of herself make them less likely to yell at the next person who crosses in front of them? I doubt it. Save the martydom complex for issues where it matters to something other than your own ego.

Young blokes in particular are just dicks, often speeding around showing off.
Ignore all the people on here trying to turn it around and make you out to be the one over-reacting. I used to be like this but since an incident when we were living abroad and I gave the finger to some idiot dangerously overtaking us and at the next set of traffic lights he came up to the car and punched the drivers side window, it did make me realise that you can put yourself in danger. Generally though I'm just absolutely sick of young lads in powerful cars speeding around, revving their engines, chucking rubbish out of their cars. If I thought my 3 young adult sons were behaving like this I would be furious.

Why are some women such dicks?

You crossed the road not at a crossing then swore at the them verbally and with gestures.

They are the pricks?

Dicks sorry. Shining example you were