To think you don’t treat people like this? Or am I too sensitive!

[ijustlikehouston]

Had an internal job interview, the job was recommended to me by someone in that team, I had a chat with them, with the manager and then put forward my CV and got an interview.

Was suppose to hear back by latest Monday. Nothing. I sent a quick IM yesterday to the manager and asked if I would hear from him or HR and he said I should have heard on Tuesday but he’ll chase up.

Still nothing. I’ve been sick with nerves waiting to hear back since Monday and then clearly have made a decision and I think it’s cruel to just keep me waiting. I’m dreading that it will go into next week and I’ll have to wait another weekend.

Perhaps I'm hardened by being in a business where I often pitch for jobs and don't hear back to a helpful timeline, but you need to distract yourself somehow and dial things down from this 'sick with nerves' state. You've already got a job, if you get this one, that's great, if you don't, so be it. You can't keep it at the forefront of your mind constantly. I tend to assume I haven't got it, get on with the next thing, and then it's a lovely surprise when the call comes through. You've chased it up and it's being looked into. There's nothing more you can do so please try not to wind yourself up - which the 'you don't treat people like this' angle is only going to do. There could be any number of reasons why it's delayed and it's still only a matter of days. Plan something fun for the weekend and put your energies elsewhere.

Given the time of year with holidays and Covid isolations I wouldn't worry about it too much, everything takes longer in July & August!

YABU

Sounds like they like you and thought you were a good potential candidate to actually suggest it to you and talk about it. Obviously we don't know what they thought about the interview performance yet.

I can't see any reason for the manager to lie to you about his expectations of when you would hear by and he has presumably chased as he stated. The issue is probably with HR/recruitment having to complete certain processes before they formally issue either an offer or rejection. That or miscommunication with the manager about timeframes.

You just have to wait patiently. Your current job is safe, nothing is at risk. Hopefully it is positive news.

I'm afraid this is par for the course. Looking on the bright side, if you work there already at least there's a good chance you'll hear back eventually.

I agree with pp. You need to calm down a bit. It would be good if they let you know when they said they would, but delays of this kind are quite normal so being sick with nerves is a bit OTT. Try not to think about it and just give it a few more days.

I think it’s bad form to give you a date and to keep missing it but not unreasonable not to have made a decision yet - unexpected stuff comes up all the time and you have to prioritise.

Just a thought OP.
Could it perhaps be that they have offered the position to someone else, but they are waiting for that candidate to confirm acceptance of the post?
If that candidate doesn't take up the offer, they then want to offer it to you - therefore, they're saying nothing at the moment in an attempt to spare your feelings.
Good luck, whatever the outcome.

I acknowledge that it's stressful OP and anxiety is awful (I suffer with it) but i do think YABU and I'm not sure it could be meaningfully described as 'cruel'. A bit inconsiderate potentiallu, context depending but more likely they may just have not had time to discuss it or decide, may have taken longer than planned to interview all candidates and collate paperwork and feedback etc. It's fairly normal and one of those things even though it feels shit for those waiting.

I wouldn't press the matter further, they would let you know if they had decided.

Ime this usually happens when you are second choice. They will wait to see if the first choice accepts before telling you anything. Or they might just be slow.

I've worked in recruitment and sometimes delays like this are unavoidable. Someone key is sick, debate over which candidate to offer too, other business critical issue has arisen that comes first etc.

It sounds like they've offered it to their 1st choice candidate and are awaiting acceptance/references etc.

They would then offer to you if the 1st choice rejects.

We usually know within 24hrs of interviews who we are offering to, it's just the above that delays telling the unsuccessful.

To be honest this is par for the course in recruitment at the moment.
DD is currently applying for jobs. It’s bad enough when firms don’t bother to let you know you are unsuccessful in getting an interview. However now it seems that you can travel 100 miles, have a four hour interview and never hear a thing. Yes she has got in touch to ask, but they ignore emails/phone calls.
I think it’s disgusting perhaps we should have a name and shame thread of shoddy employers?