I just wanted him to love me

[PennyDreadful66]

Ive been with my DH for 5 years and he has a porn addiction, after 5 years of arguing, being hurt, being lied to and disrespected he's finally said he sees no problem with what he does and he won't be changing so I've left him, I'm gonna be a single mum to my five month old baby and I don't know how to cope, my whole world has come crashing down and I just wanted to rant, I'm sorry to even post here but I'm just so hurt and scared. I just wanna be okay.

You will be ok. If there's one thing worse than being a single parent it's being with a partner that you've grown to resent for their inability to be a functioning grown-up.

Firstly... well done for finally leaving a situation you found intolerable..

As the pervious poster says.. you WILL be okay .., you can do this 🌸

It get easier, the first few months are the hardest as your getting your financial organised ...after that bits done you'll find a weight has been lifted.

I had an ex who watched porn all the time & he was so crazy & unattentive in the sack ....all that porn & he learned absolutely nothing.

Now his kicked to the curb, soon you're confidence will come back, your smile. Aint no-one got time for a loser like that ....Well done for getting rid.

Don't be upset or hurt, be happy be excited ...your life is about to get better, a new chapter in your life ....make it good x

☆ Crap not crazy

Well done for making a stand. You will cope, and you've got your life back.

You will be surprised at how quickly you learn to manage the situation.

You have shown great character by rejecting him. Porn is ugly, artificial and degrading.

It must be hard for you, especially with such a young baby. Your partner is probably one of those people who doesn't value what they have until it is gone.

I hope you have somewhere decent to live now you have left.

Good luck.

He’ll never see anyone as beautiful as you on there, I don’t think I would leave over this.

@Tryalittletenderness

He’ll never see anyone as beautiful as you on there, I don’t think I would leave over this.

WTAF

Did you read anything OP said.. and how it affects her well being 😳

Really sorry it's come to this it must be a very stressful and upsetting time for you.
You've done the right thing especially after what he said, basically "I'm not giving up because I prefer porn to you." Jeez what a wanker. He doesn't see women as fully human does he.

Wanker.

Literally and figuratively.

@Tryalittletenderness

He’ll never see anyone as beautiful as you on there, I don’t think I would leave over this.

I haven't left for five years, I tried to help, I've tried to be supportive buy ou can't change someone who doesn't see a problem with their behaviour.

Well done OP. I can understand why you feel upset now but you've absolutely done the right thing and you will come to feel proud with yourself for having done it.

Don't listen to the people who have lower standards than you telling you you should have put up with it.

Congrats OP, you've just saved yourself from years of hurt and effort there was no point in making. He won't/can't change until/unless he sees it as a problem and he clearly doesn't, all you can do in that situation is walk away.

This is the hardest part and it gets easier much faster than you expect, just hang in there for a little while and you will see. The key to it all now is to focus on you and your baby, figure out what you both need to be happy and stable without him and put all your energy into building that. You would never have been happy with someone who prioritised an addiction over you and your relationship would not have been a good example to set your DC, you've done the right thing