Husband

[GrandpaSharkdoodoo]

DH went out to meet work colleagues at 5pm. This is the first ever meet up with his colleagues. He has only been "out" to a pub once since Covid. We have a baby born last year so we've been home a lot anyway. So basically, I'm saying he deserved a night out. But...He's still isnt back (12.35pm) even though the game ended about 11 I think? No answer from his phone. I feel a bit annoyed that he isn't answering. Is it right that I feel annoyed?

Christ, I never thought I was a ‘cool wife’ but some of these responses…

[quote Frownette]@Meggymoo777 free up her time so she can do what she wants[/quote]
So she wants him to free up her time to go and do something now at 1.30am in the morning? Give over! From the OP this is a rare occurrence... Jesus Christ, I didn't get the memo that we can't go out and have a later night than expected when we enter into a relationship 🙄

He's probably back now and OP's giving him ear ache for being late

I wouldn't expect him home til very late - or early morning.
Most of them are drunk as skunks at this stage.
You may as well go to bed.

@Meggymoo777 calm down, I'm far too relaxed to have a scrap this time of the night

A grown man can't just text his wife to let her know he's ok and that the night out is continuing??

He's not a bloody teenager, ffs

Maybe he got carried away with the football result and good first night out in a long while.

Also, is he in Central London at all? The scenes there at the moment are chaotic. There's crowds of people everywhere, police, horses, etc. Not to say he could be hurt if that's where he's gone but it's just that it might take longer to get home.

[quote Frownette]@Meggymoo777 calm down, I'm far too relaxed to have a scrap this time of the night [/quote]
I'm perfectly calm, thank you! I just find your responses ridiculous... if the sex roles were reversed and it was a man complaining his DP was 1.5 hrs late home on her first light out since having a baby and the start of the pandemic and she had neglected to check her phone... would you be saying she had to make it up to him?

@Tiari

A grown man can't just text his wife to let her know he's ok and that the night out is continuing??

He's not a bloody teenager, ffs

No, he's not a teenager... so why treat him like one? Why is OP sitting awake, ruminating, when she could be asleep and resting? I would imagine this is an exceptional night for many English football fans?

OP is obviously upset although I can understand him getting caught up in the moment, it's pretty infectious. Just a shame he didn't text.

@Frownette

OP is obviously upset although I can understand him getting caught up in the moment, it's pretty infectious. Just a shame he didn't text.

I agree with you, it is a shame he didn't text, but yes, nights like this are infectious (and often loads of fun!) and unless this is a regular problem and OPs DH is otherwise a good man, this whole thread is a non issue in my opinion and he shouldn't be in the doghouse for having lost the run of himself a bit

So many of these threads lately. YABU

He's probably out having a great time, did he need to be back by a certain time to do something? Or did you just not want him home too late?

If it's the latter just relax and let him enjoy himself.

It's bloody annoying that he hasn't text you back... I can understand that & your annoyance is valid. Though I wouldn't be too hard on him, he's probably had one too many, the atmosphere is going to be fantastic at the pub with everyone happy and in good spirits, it's probably really loud and he didn't hear his phone that's all.

When he comes in, tell him you text him and was worried as he didn't reply. Then ask him about his evening etc
Don't complain to him, his had a great night and you don't want him feeling like he can't blow of steam once n a while ...that would make him resentful & push away ...or rather down the pub again lol
Go to sleep, I hope he doesn't crash through the door and wake baby up ....actually, might want to check he's not sleeping on the front porch due to keyhole not staying still "hic"

[quote FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop]@ImMrNimbus in her latest update she said she wanted him back immediately after football.

Nights out - for both men and women - inevitably run over as planned especially if you're having a good time. It's quite depressing that adults are given strict curfews by their OHs.

OP to get the other thread deleted just report it to MNHQ and say it's a duplicate thread.[/quote]
Who says that the OP has "given him a strict curfew"? He said he'd be back at a certain time and he hasn't messaged to say that he'll be back later than planned. The OP is within her rights to be worried that he's not safe.

If I go somewhere risky - usually up a mountain or into a disused mine, but drinking is also a risky activity - I may tell someone where I'm going and that if I don't check in at a given time, they should call mountain rescue or cave rescue as appropriate. I then phone in on returning to safety.

I am by no means a cool wife but 12.35am! After one night out in a year? Really?! I am cringing for you.

He's not Cinderellas coach OP he won't turn in to a pumpkin at midnight.

I would not be bothered about this, I dare say that lots of people got carried away tonight, and were late home from football watching places.

I imagine the pub has a lock in.

@DdraigGoch what on earth are you going on about comparing a night out at the pub to a mountain rescue.
Jesus Christ.

[quote Zebraaa]@DdraigGoch what on earth are you going on about comparing a night out at the pub to a mountain rescue.
Jesus Christ.[/quote]
Extreme example but the principle is the same. If you tell someone that you will be back at a certain time and then don't show up, that person will worry that something has happened to you. Therefore if you get delayed you send a text to say so.

It's easy to lose track of time especially when having a drink. Can't ever say I'd worry about the safety of a bloke on a night out. I don't think OP was worried about his safety, she was just cross her wasnt back in time.

He obviously got caught up, it was a big night for football fans. This happens so infrequently, by your own description, I’d have nothing in me which could wind me up about this.