So I’m considering cutting DC’s uncles and grandmother from dad’s side out of their life. (not together, he sees for a few hours here and there, doesn’t take DC back to his home etc, I’m the one always planning get togethers with his family, he never does take DC to see them etc).
This is for a few reasons:
They never make the effort to contact and see how DC is, even when DC had COVID or whenever has been unwell or in hospital.
They never make the effort to see DC, never ask to FaceTime, and I’m the one always having to chase them to see in RL or they wouldn’t bother at all because they never ask or attempt to make a plan.
They have family get togethers and celebrate special occasions and never plan for DC to be there or invite, including for similar aged cousins, but will always make sure whatever girlfriend is on the scene is there for every get together and occasion - even after I have told them that I feel DC is left out a lot but they don’t ever change.
I’m sick of DC being an after thought to them, DC has my side of the family who adore and spend a lot of time, would I be unreasonable to say because of lack of care and effort, they no longer have anything to do with DC?
I would rather someone be out of DC’s life than inconsistently in and out, they legally don’t have a leg to stand on, and of course I would still allow dad access as normal