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I want to throw out at leat 70% of the toys and games in this house

84 replies

Twiglett · 24/11/2007 10:43

they don't play with them

they have an entire room filled with them, plus 2 bedrooms plus spill over into living room

I think that 2 children should be able to survive with toys and books in

1 toy chest (it's big and deep)
1 set of shelves (it's big, made up of 16 x 33cm(sq) cubes) and has 4 drawers at the bottom)
1 arts and crafts chest (4 drawers, 2 deep, 2 slim)

I am not counting a huge doll's house and 2 huge horses that need floor space btw

how do I get rid of the rest of the feckin' crap

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TheQueenOfQuotes · 24/11/2007 10:46

Right I did this a while back and it was quite easy really.

Got 3 bags (although it should be said it turned out to be more like 9 bags in the end LOL)

One for stuff that I could possibly sell on.

One for stuff that was suitable for giving away (charity shop in this case)

One for ANYTHING that had pieces missing (even just one piece gone warranted it throwable), broken, too dirty/old/disgusting to give away or sell......and it went in the bin,

Then I went systematically through the room putting the toys in the relevant bags, toys that were being kept got stacked in the corner until I'd cleared out and then put away afterwards

pirratePiggy · 24/11/2007 10:50

yes, a plan is needed! Perhaps you cuold put some in your local paper, generate a bit of cash?

Put some good ones in the loft/shed? things they may come back to.

Flog some on here? Lotsof people are skint-me! this year and looking for quality, stuff.

My dd needs another playbox inher room, things are getting out of hand with all the big thigns. Actually, shelves might be a better idea, for playsets, whic are on the floor atm,and take up so much room. ie My little pony island, littlest pet shop.

arghhhhh.

perpetualworrier · 24/11/2007 11:06

How old are the children?

I've had a good clear out every year in the weeks leading up to Christmas, using similar method to The Queen, although I generally to lazy to ever get round to selling anything.

I put everything in black bags and say to myself that if it hasn't been missed in 6 weeks it can all go. They've never missed anything! but I'm wondering how much longer I can go on throwing their stuff away without consulting them?

My Dad (now 64) till bears a grudge against his mum for throwing out his comic collection. He reckons he had all The Eagle comic from issue 1.

filthymindedvixen · 24/11/2007 11:08

Freecycle! It is incredible what tat people will accept

filthymindedvixen · 24/11/2007 11:09

And the beauty of freecycle is that people collect it for you.

beeper · 24/11/2007 11:21

Shall I call you a skip!!!

ScoobyDoo · 24/11/2007 11:27

Oh i do this & it feels sooo good lol.

I just go through each toy box/chest/draw & do what QoQ suggested, bag of bits missing/to dirty, bag of charity, i don't do the bag of sell on because i just can't be bothered with the hasstle.

In fact i am going to do this today ready for christmas.

beeper · 24/11/2007 11:37

Ooh scooby...steady on now or you will need to take a cold shower.

fizzbuzz · 24/11/2007 11:38

But you have to do midnight culls on toys, otherwise if they see you removing them they ALWAYS want it again, even if never played with for 6 months

NAB3littlemonkeys · 24/11/2007 11:38

I would love to do this as the 6 year old has grown out of things but what do you do when the 2 year old needs things????

Twiglett · 24/11/2007 11:39

with or without kids?

(6 and 3/4 and 3 and 1/2)

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beeper · 24/11/2007 11:50

LOL @'midnight culls'

Maybe if you box the offenders up and put them in the lot for 6 months and see if they ask for them, then get rid after that.

beeper · 24/11/2007 11:51

loft loft

fizzbuzz · 24/11/2007 12:04

Yeah have tried that..but then they suddenly rememeber them and want them back.

This is exactly what happened to ds when he was about 10. Lifted up to poke his head through loft door, and saw everything! Wanted it all back down.......ended up with twice as much. Never again..........

TheQueenOfQuotes · 24/11/2007 12:05

The last one I did was with DS1 and DS2 (3 1/2 and 6 1/2 at the time).

NineUnlikelyTales · 24/11/2007 12:17

Are they old enough to say that they have to collect enough toys to 'sell' (even if you freecycle/charity shop/bin them) in order to pay for a treat? Make the treat something to do rather than something to buy.

fizzbuzz · 24/11/2007 12:17

It doesn't get any easier as they get older either.

Ds now 14 and has practically set an alarm system around all his old lego, in case I have a mad frenzy.

There is bloody tonnes of it going back years and years....he checks it is still there all the time, and accuses me of trying to throw his childhood away.

He has been like this since I binned his entire pokemon card collection, with his approval I may add, but now it is strangely all my fault

CarGirl · 24/11/2007 12:23

def without the younger one. I'd ask the older one to split her stuff into 2 piles stuff to keep and stuff to go - has to put on each pile as she goes so it is a 50/50 split. TBH we cull all year around I have a look through what hasn't been played with and decide what goes. I think there is research that says the more they have they less the play with anything at all as it's just too much & overwhelming.

Lizzylou · 24/11/2007 12:25

I am going to go with QOQ suggestion, after Christmas we won't be able to blooming well move in this house if I don't act!

perpetualworrier · 24/11/2007 12:31

Oh I like that CarGirl and would agree. My DS1 can play for ages with 2 broken toy cars if that's all there is, but at home when he's surrounded by toys, is bored and just wants TV on.

Anyway if there actual research supporting this, I can cull for their own good without guilt

dd666 · 24/11/2007 12:39

ive been trying for months to get rid of some of dd's 18mo toys she has loads have got rid of broken toys already, split into books soft toys, baby toys are in loft and garden toys. have got large bag for mil as she said her box is empty sorted for her and they still at my house
i too need to get rid of more before christmas but los are what were christmas/birthday pressies as this years christmas pressies are going to leave me with no space at all!

smartiejake · 24/11/2007 12:42

We had a clear out last year. Took all the stuff to a boot fair. Deducted the entrance fee and let them keep the money we made.
They were much happier to get rid when there was something in it for them!

CarGirl · 24/11/2007 12:44

found this on the web it is part of a guardian article

Claire Lerner, a child-development worker, carried out a US government-funded study into the effect of inundating children with toys. She found that too many playthings can restrict development and may harm children.

"They get overwhelmed and over-stimulated and cannot concentrate on any one thing long enough to learn from it so they just shut down. Too many toys means they are not learning to play imaginatively either," she says.

A study by the University of Stirling recently concluded that expensive, hi-tech toys are a waste of money - children learn just as much from playing with an old mobile phone.

So should parents chuck the lot? Perhaps. In Germany, two public health workers, Rainer Strick and Elke Schubert, persuaded a Munich nursery to pack away all playthings for three months out of every year, leaving the children with nothing but tables, chairs, blankets and their initiative. Then they watched what happened.

Initially, the children were bored but by day two they had turned tables and blankets into dens and were absorbed in make-believe games. They became more imaginative and contented, and in the process learned to concentrate, communicate better and integrate more in groups.

Steiner Waldorf educationalists have long recognised the positive effects of taking away excess toys from children and replacing them with simpler, more natural playthings such as conkers, shells and lengths of fabric to stimulate creative play.

Veronica Moen, director of Myriad Natural Toys, which sells Steiner-influenced playthings, thinks we should radically edit the toy cupboard: "Simpler toys mean imagination has to do all the work. Minimal facial expressions on dolls, for example, make children bestow them with emotions and act out scenarios. Natural materials, like wood, stimulate their senses."

According to Dr John Richer, consultant clinical paediatric psychologist at John Radcliffe hospital, Oxford, "The mistake that many parents make when they buy a toy, especially for very young children, is they get toys that can do a lot, instead of getting toys a child can do a lot with." He says studies show that when a child is confronted with a new object they go through two stages: exploration then play.

In exploration, children ask: "What does this object do?" In play it is "What can I do with this?" When a child is confronted with too many new toys they spend too long exploring and not enough time playing. "The theory is that children who play more tend to become more creative, imaginati ve and emotionally secure.

"The impression is they are better at taking initiative and are more adaptable, which is what one wants in a fast-changing world," says Dr Richer.

Less, it seems, is more when it comes to boosting a child's development. Bernadette Duffy, head of Thomas Coram Early Childhood Centre, in London, advises that parents avoid electronic toys and buy ones that need imaginative input from the child: Lego, bricks, farm animals, simple dolls, good books.

And playing simple games with Mum or Dad is worth more than the best-stocked toy cupboard. "Spending time with your child is the best present you can give them," says Duffy.

But what to do with all the tat that your children have already accumulated? Boxing up old toys and bringing them out several months later helps reduce over-stimulation and boredom. Or divide the kids' toys into five bags. Give them a bag for a day or so, then store it away again.

So, box up all the gizmos. Pack away the surfeit of cuddly toys and dolls. Bin the broken bits of plastic and leave out just a few of the classic favourites, such as trains, books, cars, Lego and simple dolls that make children do all the creative work. Stand well back and watch them flourish.

DynamicKermitsNanny · 24/11/2007 12:48

The lady I babysit for did this she had a huge toy room with loads of toys etc and she hired me for the day and we went through the toys whilst the children were at school - throwing the broken stuff out, toys/games that were too young were put in another bag for charity, and other young toys were put in another bag for their younger cousins.

Have fun!

Rolf · 24/11/2007 12:54

I did an extreme version of this yesterday. I was getting so cross with my DSs about the way they treat their room and possessions that I packed up EVERYTHING. All they have now is their beds, clothes, a bookcase full of (sorted out) books and a shoe box each containing "treasures".

Everything else is packing up in crates and is going to storage next week. We'll give it a few weeks then take a load to charity shops.

THey have asked for one or two things but otherwise have had a lovely morning doing some drawing.

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