To be signed off work? Trigger warning (sexual assault)

[Hamnetssister]

I’m feeling really guilty. I’ve been signed off for two weeks as dd, 15, disclosed that she had been sexually assaulted. I’ve been dealing with the police and the stress of everything and I haven’t felt able to do my job. But I keep wondering if I should be trying to go into work as well? I kept bursting into tears at work and it wasn’t sustainable. WIBU to get signed off?

Of course YNBU!! I can't imagine what you're going through, almost as devastating to you as it is to your DD. I hope she gets justice x

Thank you. It has been an awful shock. It’s been good to be around to support dd as well.

Getting your head around what has happened and supporting your daughter right now is your job. Work is not important. Forget about it for the time you have been signed off. Sending a hand squeeze.

Thank you. She was refusing to go to school for a while, so I’ve been able to drop her off and pick her up each day which has been good for her. We have a video interview later this week which I feel sick about.

The video interview was fine - dd was so brave.

Well done to you both xx

Your poor daughter .... you are def doing the right thing by being off work. I couldn't behave normally at work if this has happened to my dd

I’m a teacher as well and I can manage tricky classes or a heavy workload normally, but not with this on top. I just burst into tears when I found out.

Oh gosh you poor things. Of course you cant go into work and pretend everything is OK. Don't doubt yourself for a second that's not a burden you should place on yourself right now. I'm.so sorry this happened to your dd. Thank god she told you.

Thank you. I’m feeling guilty about my classes and letting my colleagues down - but I would be doing a terrible job at the moment. I can’t concentrate on anything.

Decided not to go back till sept now. Super anxious still.

Oh I'm so sorry. Love and thoughts to you both. Good Lord of course YANBU. Your DD comes ahead of everything. She needs you. Please don't feel guilty.

Thank you. I couldn’t have not been here really. She seems ok - but I know she needs me.

Hugs to both of you, d0nt you dare feel guilty. Your dad comes first, you are a wonderful mum.

Thank you - that means a lot.

You're doing the right thing OP. Your DD must come first over your colleagues, and anyone who doesn't agree, isn't worth considering about.

I hope your DD is doing ok

Thank you. I can’t imagine going back at the moment, but I’m sure things will feel very different in September. Dd seems ok - I’m just incredibly anxious.