To be really pissed off with younger brother and family

[shoshaliteupthetree]

I phoned youngest brother last night to ask if he wanted to contribute to a Christmas present for Father (80 next week) and spoke to his wife.

Th reply was no why should we he never buys us anything!!!!!

I said he never buys any of us anything (he lives on a pension and is married to a second wife (mom died 16 years ago) that spends everything he has. All other brothers and Ds are contributing (we are getting a digital frame and filling it with photos of the family.

Anyway was really shocked and didn't know what to say, she is usually the reasonable one, brother didnt even bother to phone Dad on Christmas Day last year.

Dad and Mom gave us a great childhood, and we all stay in contact regularly except this brother, he only calls when he wants something. (even if the actual running about after Dad and looking after him is left to me, but to be fair one brother in Afghan with the RAF other lives in Spain, youngest brother lives 1.30 hrs away from him I live 45 mins away)

Anyway, now what do I do, do I put on the card from all the family or just those that contributed so that Dad dosnt get upset.

To be honest there will be very few photos of youngest brother and family as I really dont want to speak to him to ask for some!!

Sorry think I needed to rant.

Middle brother (his twin) has siad Bol to him, just dont phone him as everytime I do he upsets me.

have you actually spoken to your brother sorry if I have it wrong but I got the impression in the op that you spoke to his wife not your brother if this is the case I would speak to your brother not his wife and see what he has to say.

If I am wrong then hes a tighwad with other issues,but I would rise above it and put his name on so your dad doesnt feel hurt

No Havnt spoke to him, didnt bother as last year I emailed a list of books Dad wanted to all family as they were asking what Dad wanted for Christmas, (well all but him asked, but sent it to all), and he didnt bother then either, so dont know really why I am so surprised at him.

As I said his twin has told me to forget about him, as it me that gets upset when he ignores Dad like this.

I really cantthink why he does it, the rest of us are really close.